If your partner went to the bathroom on the floor the first time they ever met your friends, is that something you could move on from, or would it always be hanging over your heads?
It was approximately a year ago that this 23-year-old man introduced his 20-year-old girlfriend to his friends for the first time at a small party.
That night, his girlfriend was drinking like a fish, and he actually had to tell her to cool it off, as they were supposed to go to a bar after the party.
His girlfriend did not pay attention to him and continued to drink until she threw up multiple times. Then, one of his friends also got completely wasted and nearly knocked themselves out, so he was dealing with the two of them at the same time.
“I left them both to go clean up the toilet, and that’s when another friend knocked on the front door. We went to check on my girlfriend and friend together, and that’s when we discovered she’d had a bowel accident on the floor,” he explained.
“This was the first time meeting my friends, and she initially denied it happened even though it was obvious. I was up all night cleaning and taking care of her.”
“She was mortified and apologized once sober. I told myself it was a one-time thing (she says she rarely drinks and hadn’t been drinking in months, hence low tolerance) and decided to stay together.”
He did think he could get over the accident, but in the months since, he has not managed to do so. He thinks about what his girlfriend did all the time, and he panics when his friends joke about it.
It has also dawned on him that he’s been downplaying the impact this had on him, as he has largely felt like his girlfriend’s humiliation overshadows his trauma.
He and his girlfriend are moving in with one another shortly, and her accident has been weighing on him even more heavily because of that.
“I keep asking myself, if this happened with anyone else, would I have stayed? Honestly, probably not. But it doesn’t feel that simple because I do love her, and this was genuinely out of character,” he continued.
“Am I overreacting by still being this affected months later? Should I move forward with living together, or is this a sign I need to end things?”
If his girlfriend hasn’t repeated this behavior, then I think we can chalk this up to accidents happen, and of course, it’s awful that this had to go down in front of his friends as an audience.
It’s perfectly fine for him to still be embarrassed by what his girlfriend did, especially since he warned her about the pace of her drinking and tried to save her from herself there.
It’s also valid for someone to break up with their partner at any point in time and for any reason, so if he genuinely thinks this is not something he can get over, then it might be for the best for him to end things.
What do you think?
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