It is so diabolical for someone to string you along, sleep with you, and only then reveal that they’re actually not even single. What would you do if that happened to you?
This girl went on exactly three dates with a guy, and they both had an amazing time. Their chemistry was off the charts, and they didn’t run out of topics to talk about.
“He took pictures of us on each date. We [slept together] a few times, and he even slept over [at] my house. On the third date, he was asking me questions about my previous relationships,” she explained.
“I disclosed that one BF passed away, and the previous BF before him was constantly cheating and got someone else pregnant. He immediately got a disconcerted look on his face and blurted out, ‘I have a girlfriend, I’m so sorry.'”
She was blindsided by his confession, and it turns out this guy has been with his girlfriend since he was 16, and now he’s 23. She fell silent and actually moved away from him when he told her that he was not single.
There are times she can’t get any words out when she feels sad and upset, and the words get messed up in her head. And that’s exactly what happened to her in that moment.
“He kept asking me to talk and sort this out with him, and he was saying how much he liked me, how pretty I was, how he didn’t want to stop seeing me,” she added.
“I’m really hurt, yes, it was three dates, I know it wasn’t long at all. I did feel a connection, and I feel like it was all [a] ruse. I haven’t told anyone, and I don’t want to. I’m so embarrassed. I’m confused and hurt.”
“But the girlfriend, I wish she knew how sorry I was. If I knew he had a girlfriend, I wouldn’t have gone out with him. I have so many feelings, and they’re all bad.”
To name a few, she’s humiliated, puzzled, lonely, empty, and feels like she was totally used by this man. She’s left wondering how she can heal and move on from such a horrible admission.
It probably won’t make her feel that much better, but she can’t blame herself for this man failing to disclose his relationship status.
He lied to her and led her on, and she didn’t have any control over that. You simply cannot make people act with integrity or tell you the truth.
I think she should invest some of her time into finding his girlfriend and alerting her to how gross her cheater of a boyfriend is. Other than that, she needs to block this man and try to take some time to move on. As they say, time heals all wounds, and there’s not much else she can do except give herself some grace.
What advice do you have for her?
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