Chip Chick
“Your mom is being extremely entitled to think she can just give commands like that and commit emotional blackmail when people refuse.”
“Mom’s have the reputation of being so kind and supportive, but I’ve mostly noticed they tend to be entitled little children that always have to get their way. so strange.”
“Cite traditional etiquette if pressed. Families do not give showers for their relatives. A close friend, godparent, or group of friends should offer to host the party since it is understood that family will support the new mother or bride. Family members are then invited to the shower as a courtesy.”
“You’ve already been very mature in this situation. It is possible for you to be happy for your sister and still not want to get overly involved with the process.”
“Good on you for standing up for yourself, your mom sounds pretty pushy. Just let her know that you look forward to attending the baby shower as a guest and not a planner, there’s no shame in some boundaries.”
“…You should think about taking some time away. Get out of town for a year. Take a job in another city or even another state or country.”
“Go out and pursue your own passions and get your own life back on track.”
“You’ve been mired in your family and in this love triangle too long and you need some time to work through all the big feelings you have. It’s okay to take a break.”
