She’s Planning On Throwing Her Daughter A Second Birthday Party After A Special Needs Girl Ruined The First One But She Wants The Internet To Weigh In
A mom says her 12-year-old daughter celebrated her 12th birthday several weeks ago, and she asked for something specific in regards to her party.
Her daughter asked if she could invite her friends to go for pizza and a double feature drive-in movie. She then wanted everyone to play games at their house and sleepover for the night.
This mom let her daughter invite 4 friends to the party, before suggesting that she should invite a girl named Molly.
Molly is new to their area and is in the same class as her daughter. Molly’s mom had previously mentioned to this mom that Molly has had a very difficult time making any friends after they moved there.
“Molly has cerebral palsy and some developmental and intellectual delays, but overall seemed very sweet,” this mom explained.
“My daughter agreed to invite Molly, but I think it was only because I asked.”
Although Molly did seem to be a super sweet girl, she was completely terrible for the whole duration of the party.
“She cried when we didn’t get a pizza with her favorite toppings, and then stole the first slice of cake meant for my daughter,” this mom said.
“Things got worse at the movie. The first movie (Cruella) was too scary for Molly and she started freaking out and crying multiple times throughout the movie.”
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“I tried to calm her down, suggesting we take a walk to the snack bar during the scary parts or close her eyes, but she was inconsolable.”
She then attempted to call Molly’s mom several times because she thought it might be good for Molly to get picked up and go home at this point.
Molly’s mom never called her back, so she had to take all of the girls home before the second movie could even start.
The second movie was Black Widow, and it was the movie that her daughter so wanted to watch.
When they all arrived back at the house, things didn’t get better; they only got worse. Molly chucked a remote control after she lost at a dancing game, and then she refused to play with the other girls afterward.
The morning rolled around and this mom again called Molly’s mom to ask that she come get her earlier than she was supposed to.
Molly’s mom did apologize for how Molly acted, before revealing that Molly “is prone to outburst when she gets overstimulated, but she had been doing so much better lately in her therapy.”
Several days after the party, Molly’s mom reached out to her to say that Molly simply cannot stop speaking about how she had a great time at the party.
Her daughter was very upset that her birthday was essentially ruined by Molly, and this mom felt awful for suggesting she invite Molly in the first place.
To make it up to her daughter, she said she would have a second party for her with her other friends she had invited to her first party.
She planned on taking the girls to get pizza before heading to see Black Widow in the movie theaters.
Unfortunately, this mom’s partner thinks she’s the worst for wanting to even do this.
“He pointed out that sometimes life isn’t fair and things get ruined,” she continued. “He also doesn’t think it’s a good idea to show our daughter it’s ok to exclude people who are different.”
She’s really not sure how to handle this and if she should go through with having the second party or not now.
Here’s what the internet had to say to her.
“Her mom definitely knew what she was doing. I would think that a parent of a special needs child would be looking out for potential calls in this situation.”
“And if they happened to miss one, they would do their very best to get in contact as soon as they saw the call, even if it was late at night. She probably saw the call and chose to ignore it.”
“Yeah looks more like she got a free babysitter.”
“And she should have known better honestly. Molly struggles with friends and overstimulation and a sleepover with a visit to a movie theater sounded fine??”
“Molly could have been included in a smaller, less stressful part or something.”
“It doesn’t seem like mom cared much how fun Molly, who apparently was overstimulated and broke down so much had a “good time”? or the other girls would have.”
“It’s also worth mentioning that she is setting Molly up for failure by doing this. Molly isn’t going to be getting asked back for slumber parties, day trips, or even just hangouts because of this.”
“It sounds like she knew this was a possibility and didn’t think at all about how this is going to sabotage Molly’s ability to make meaningful friendships and relationships in her new community.”
“Molly clearly wasn’t ready for this kind of social situation, and her mom just set her up to fail.”
“Agree. My daughter (12yo) has GDD and I declined all party invites from her classmates because I was afraid she’d throw a tantrum and ruin the party (her emotional development is about 3 years delayed and she’s been in therapy since she was 5.5yo).”
“My husband asked and I told him that reason and I didn’t want to have to be watching her (more like hovering around her) during the entire party because it’d ruin the mood and the parents would think I’m overly protective and/or anti-social.”
“I was surprised when Molly’s mom didn’t stay. That certainly would have helped.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say to her here.
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