Chip Chick
“The fact that he spends even off-work hours socializing with her on social media and gaming means he spends very little of his emotional energy on you, his wife. You have every right to be upset and confronting him with boundaries.”
“I don’t think it’s just about the soup but it almost sounds like he’s replacing her with you in having some needs met.”
“Boundaries are important to respect for our partners in any relationship IMO. From what you’ve said, you’re giving him plenty of space to work freely and travel when needed with her, and while some outside of work hanging out is fine with a coworker, this much would definitely make me worry if my partner did the same.”
“I’d communicate to your husband that this friendship is pushing on your comfort zone. I would personally ask to meet her and observe firsthand how she interacts with my husband.”
“If it is inappropriate talk to him and let him know that you are uncomfortable. If it continues, while he may not have physically done anything with her, there is such thing as emotional affairs….for example, a partner may not feel that their emotional needs are being met by the other partner and may seek validation elsewhere.”
“Emotional affairs are tricky because sometimes you may not realize that you are relying on a person other than your partner for that support; anyway communicate your feelings..”
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