Her Boyfriend’s Mom Wants To Pass Down To Her The Engagement Ring Her Boyfriend’s Brother’s Ex-Wife Wore For 3 Years
A 26-year-old woman has been dating her 30-year-old boyfriend Adam for the past 4 years now. She isn’t super close with his family, but she did happen to be close with her boyfriend’s brother’s ex-wife.
Anyway, when her boyfriend’s brother proposed to his ex-wife, he did it with an engagement ring that her boyfriend’s mom gave to him.
The ring is extremely important to her boyfriend’s family and it has been a long-standing tradition in their family to pass the ring down.
Since her boyfriend doesn’t have any sisters in his family, his mom decided to let her boyfriend’s brother use the ring for his proposal.
Her boyfriend’s brother’s ex wore the ring for 3 years, then after they got divorced, the ring was returned to her boyfriend’s mom.
“Now since everyone knows that Adam and I are planning to make our relationship official and pursue marriage which is our goal, his mother suggested he propose with her engagement ring that my BIL already proposed with to his now ex,” she explained.
“Adam was excited with the idea but I was uncomfortable solely by the fact that this ring was proposed with more than once and also it belonged to my former SIL for years and she had memories attached to it.”
“I feel like that ring already had more than one love story and I feel I have the right to wear a ring that represents our relationship and one that belongs to me and Adam.”
When she made it clear to her boyfriend’s mom that she does not want to wear that hand-me-down ring, her boyfriend’s mom got extremely upset.
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Her boyfriend’s mom accused her of being disrespectful to their family tradition, before saying she’s just using it as an excuse to get Adam to buy her a more expensive ring.
“After basically shaming and wearing me down for hours about it I flatout told her that is between me and Adam but he agreed with her and said my logic doesn’t make sense and asked if I’d refuse to buy an apartment just because someone else owned it,” she said.
She thinks that’s a weak argument because living in an apartment that was inhabited before you is completely different than wearing an engagement ring that someone wore before you.
Adam is not on the same page as her and is backing up his mom, and he told her that she’s causing “unnecessary drama” while “setting a bad tone” for the relationship with his mom.
She confronted Adam for holding his mom’s opinion in higher regard than her own with this whole issue with the ring, and he was extremely insulted.
Adam also said he’s not going to let her insult his mom, and declined to continue the conversation.
“He refused to discuss it any further saying this was a ridiculous hill for me to choose to die on and should be honored to be given the opportunity to hold on to something as valuable as his mom’s engagement ring,” she concluded.
That’s not how she feels at all, and she’s left wondering what to do.
How would you feel?
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