Her Fiancé Has A Gambling Problem And She’s Thinking Of Canceling Their Wedding
A woman has been with her fiancé for close to 5 years now, and they’re getting married next month.
She had no idea when she started dating her fiancé that he had a problem with gambling, but she found out around 2 years into dating him.
He revealed to her his problem that Christmas after he lost an insane amount of money to his addiction.
She figured it was a one-off type of situation, and after he told her about his gambling problem, they went on a break.
She really wasn’t able to handle this news from him at the time, while she was trying to also focus on getting her graduate degree.
She made it clear to him that she was upset by his problem, and she insisted that he needed to find a way to fix it before she considered dating him again.
He did try to improve, which she could see, so she took him back soon after breaking up with him
From there on out, things seemed to be wonderful. Earlier this year, she learned that she was pregnant.
Her boyfriend asked her to marry him, and she agreed.
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“But just recently, he told me that he’d started gambling again because he thought he could make more money in preparation for our wedding and the baby,” she explained.
“He wanted to double or triple what he already had but he ended up losing everything. And now his desire to gamble and win is so strong because he wants to “get his money back”. And I’ve been telling him to just let it go and start saving again.”
“We’ve had so many conversations about starting over, supporting him and stuff, but he can’t stop.”
“He’s so stressed out about his losses and it stresses me out too. He’s gone back to his counselor, but it doesn’t seem to be helping.”
She’s pretty positive at this point that going to rehab is the only choice left for her fiancé, but they simply don’t have the money to send him there, considering they have a baby on the way.
Insurance is refusing to cover the costs of her fiancé attending rehab, and so she’s lost. She’s tired, and she’s upset.
“I do truly love him, but I don’t know how much longer I can deal with this,” she said. “Every time he gambles and loses, he cries to me and apologizes and says he won’t do it again, but he ends up doing it again anyway.”
“I keep telling him to fight the urge, but I know it won’t do anything for him because he can’t fight it. I know addiction is a sickness, but we literally cannot afford it at the moment.”
She’s left wondering if it’s time to call off the wedding or continue on with the wedding and just deal with this.
She won’t leave her fiancé, because she’s all that he has and his family does encourage his gambling.
“And I know he loves me and the baby very much because I can feel it,” she concluded. “He’s a good person, it just so happened that he has a gambling problem.”
“I don’t even know what to do anymore. I can’t even tell my friends or my family because I’m honestly embarrassed and afraid of judgment.”
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