His Girlfriend’s Friends Are Dating Finance Bros And After His Girlfriend Freaked Out On Him For Not Being Able To Spend That Kind Of Money On Her, He Replied That Maybe He Would If She Was Younger, Skinnier, And Blonde
New York, New York. A 31-year-old man began dating his 30-year-old girlfriend in January of this year.
They live in New York City, and they were going to move in with one another after his girlfriend’s lease ended.
He thought things were going really well between them, and they both were very happy together…up until recently.
He works as a business analyst/data scientist and he makes more than 6 figures, but he said it’s “nothing crazy.” Considering how he was raised though, he’s done well for himself.
His girlfriend has a job in client relations/operations and she makes around 60% of what he does.
It’s important to set the financial stage here because money is currently the one thing tearing them both apart.
Now, his girlfriend has these 2 younger friends, Kate and Ash, who are 23 and 24. Kate and Ash started becoming friends with a few guys who then invited them to some finance bro parties.
At those parties, Kate and Ash wound up meeting their boyfriends, who both work in finance. He looked on GlassDoor, and Kate and Ash’s boyfriend make easily three times more than what he does.
He has overheard Kate and Ash’s boyfriends talking about living the high life; they go to Nobu (which is an absurdly expensive restaurant), they get tables at clubs, and they vacation in the Hamptons.
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He wishes he could live that life and get to experience some of those things, but it’s not really in his budget, and that’s understandable considering the fact that these guys make crazy money.
The fact that Kate and Ash are getting to do these lavish things is starting to impact his own girlfriend and causing fights between them.
“It seems that the stuff I do with her has lost its value,” he explained. “Like the restaurants we used to go out to, well now they aren’t that nice.”
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“She called this one Mexican spot we go to as “dressed up Chipotle.” And it picked up more, she tells me that I should stay a bit later at work and try harder.”
His girlfriend also told him he needs to go get an MBA so he can make even more money than he already does.
“And I get self-improvement and I want to make more, but this all seems like she wants me to be like these guys,” he said.
“Where we got into a big fight, was that she wanted me to buy her a Moncler Jacket…and when I said that I can’t do that I would get her like a Patagonia or like an Aritzia jacket.”
“She flipped out saying that Kate’s bf is getting her this and THIS and going on vacation.”
“And this is where I got annoyed and I was like okay, and Kate’s 23 blonde and wears like a size 2. Why don’t you be more like Kate? And maybe I’ll spend more.”
“I know it was a super hurtful thing to say but I was so frustrated by this. Like I don’t ever compare her to other women yet she feels completely fine comparing me to other guys.”
He thought by making the comment that he did, it would show his girlfriend how hurtful it feels to constantly get compared to other people.
His girlfriend didn’t really get what he was trying to do, and she took it to mean that he has a crush on Kate, even though he doesn’t.
He was only using Kate as a comparison to try to get his girlfriend to see things from his side.
He hasn’t yet broken up with his girlfriend, but they did talk about not moving in with one another as they had originally planned.
He isn’t sure if he should see if his girlfriend would be up for counseling, and he’s lost with what to really do.
“I feel like my girlfriend maybe just needs to date these rich guys for a bit, see if it’s worth it? Like I don’t know,” he continued. “I was so happy before this lifestyle stuff came in.”
How would you feel in this situation?
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