Her Best Friend Didn’t Ask Her To Be A Bridesmaid And She’s Humiliated
Weddings may be a beautiful union between two people who love each other, but when it comes down to choosing who is in your bridal party, that decision may be tricky.
What if we look back at our wedding and regret having our friends stand by our side at the alter?
This seems to be the case for a recent wedding.
The story begins with the bride stating, “So I got married a year and a half ago, and had one of my best friends Rachel as a bridesmaid. I specifically picked only the people I was close to and really wanted in my bridal party.”
This may seem like the obvious decision for someone deciding on who they want in their bridal party. However, the situation takes a turn.
She then states, “About 4 months ago, Rachel pulled something that definitely screwed me over. I was upset, but quickly forgave her bc I felt like our relationship was more important than the mistake she made.”
Since then, they have only hung out a few times, and while staying friendly toward each other, their relationship is now a bit awkward.
During this time, Rachel gets engaged to her long-term boyfriend, bringing up the question, if you have someone in your bridal party, do they have to return the favor?
Even if it meant they were stuck in an awkward situation with one of their friends?
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She says, “I have a feeling she isn’t going to ask me to be her bridesmaid, just because we haven’t really spent a ton of quality time in awhile.”
She is deciding not to address the situation with her friend to avoid being catty and lame.
“Obviously I will still go to the wedding and externally not be bothered by it one bit.”
“I also know this isn’t set in stone yet and she very well still could ask me, im just pretty good at reading social cues so I might as well prepare for the worst.”
While she did nothing wrong in this situation, should she expect to be a bridesmaid?
Aside from wondering whether she will be in the bridal party or not, she feels humiliated that she had Rachel in her wedding in the first place.
“It feels so embarrassing and noticeable because I was the first of our friend group to get married.”
She feels hurt by the situation, and while Rachel was in the wrong, why is she getting punished for it?
“I know this mindset is probably bad, but her and her fiance talked about getting married for a long time before actually putting a ring on it, so I’ve figured this would be an issue since we had that mishap happened.”
She knows that not everyone is entitled to make their friends a bridesmaid for their wedding.
However, she asks for advice in this situation. Is she overthinking?
Should she be humiliated by this friendship and allowing Rachel to be a part of her bridal party?
“I cannot shake the embarrassed and hurt feeling.”
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