He Wants To Sell His House To Deal With The Grief Of Losing His Wife, But That Also Means He Will Have To Kick Out His In-Laws
Two years ago, this man’s wife was sadly diagnosed with cancer. And even after she fought like hell to survive, he still ended up losing his wife about six months ago.
During their marriage, they never had kids together since they were both super focused on their careers. So, in his wife’s final days, she just wanted to spend time with her parents.
The problem, though, was that her parents lived across the United States. But, since their house had plenty of room and he just wanted to make his wife happy, he decided to move her parents into their home.
However, both of his wife’s parents had already retired by that point and were not exactly swimming in cash. So they were unable to pay for any living expenses. And honestly, he did not even want to ask them to.
“There was enough stress in our lives already, and none of us had wanted to add financial issues to that. They helped with groceries from time to time, but we never asked for more than that,” he recalled.
Anyway, his wife has since passed away, and for the past six months, he has been left dealing with a ton of grief– much of which he believes is tied to their house.
After all, they bought the house together, and it is obviously filled with so many memories. He detailed how he often just breaks down after seeing or remembering the tiniest of things.
On top of dealing with the grief, he is also still living with his in-laws– who, to his knowledge, had no plans of moving out anytime soon.
But, in order to move on, he began contemplating one major decision over the last month– selling the house and trying to start fresh away from so many emotional triggers.
Wollwerth Imagery – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual house
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And as he thought about this idea more and more, it became apparent that it would probably be the best thing he could do for himself. So, a few weeks ago, he found a realtor and learned more about his options, and ever since then, he has been pretty set on selling his house.
Of course, though, this would ultimately force his in-laws to figure out their own arrangements. And when he brought his decision up to them this past weekend, the conversation went far from well.
In fact, he got accused of trying to “erase” the life that he and his wife built within the walls of their home. His in-laws also claimed that he just wanted them out of his life now that his wife was dead and tried to make him feel guilty by saying he would be making them homeless.
Honestly, he could sympathize with his in-law’s fear and anger. But regardless of that, he just does not think they are entitled to sway his decision.
“This is not their house nor their decision. I am simply wanting to move on from the lowest point of my life,” he explained.
“I do not want to erase anything that my wife and I built together. But I also don’t think I can continue living in this house. It’s just too heartbreaking, and I don’t like crying every time a memory gets triggered.”
In turn, he ended up telling his in-laws that they were free to remain living in his home until it was sold. However, he also advised them to begin making their own arrangements for afterward.
It was at that point, though, that her father-in-law offered up a different idea. His father-in-law asked if they could rent the house from him to continue living there and keep it in the family.
He was open to the idea, too, and entertained the conversation. But, after he eventually told his in-laws the amount of rent money he would need monthly, his in-laws actually scoffed at him. Then, they tried to call him out for “capitalizing on their grief” and going against what his wife– their daughter– would have wanted.
So now, ever since that heated discussion, the house has been filled with tension, and neither his mother-in-law nor father-in-law will speak to him.
This does not make him happy in the slightest, and he wishes that he did not have to put his in-laws in a bad situation. But, he just does not think he is responsible for his in-law’s feelings and believes it is best to take care of himself right now.
Still, though, choosing to put himself first has also forced him to wonder if the decision is selfish and makes him a jerk.
Do you think it is natural for him to want to start fresh? Is getting away from emotional triggers a healthy coping mechanism? Does he have a right to do what is best for himself or not?
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