Katharina Buczek
And because of his girlfriend’s consistent weight gain, he has been literally freaking out and having panic attacks over making that commitment.
His fear might stem back to his childhood, in which he had one parent who was overweight and recently developed serious heart problems.
“I don’t want to be alone by the time I am sixty to seventy, having lived a life with a partner that gave up on their body and is fat their whole life. I just can’t bear to think about what a waste of life for both of us that would be,” he vented.
And recently, he has begun to feel like his girlfriend will never change. Apparently, she was going through a very stressful Ph.D. program for a while, and he figured she would change her habits after finishing it.
To his dismay, though, his girlfriend took on a stressful job with long hours afterward, so she has even less energy.
And quite honestly, he believes that there will always be an excuse going forward as to why she cannot lose weight.
Still, he realizes that his girlfriend is his best friend and does not want to lose her. He also is seriously embarrassed that he was never honest about his true feelings all these years.
In fact, the last time that he got upset, his girlfriend apparently asked him if he would break up with her over the weight.
And he admits to being dishonest and telling her no. At this point in time, though, he is not sure if he can lie anymore.
“I think my ideal world would be having someone that wants to maintain a healthy weight and good body their whole life. I don’t know if I’m just being stupid waiting. This is the only (admittedly, massive) snag in the relationship,” he revealed.
So now, he is just not sure what to do about their future. On the one hand, he does not want to end up like his parents.
