She Got Pregnant From A One-Night Stand, Gave Up Her Parental Rights, And Is Wondering If It’s Ok To Reach Out To Her Daughter, Who Is Now 17
Back when this 40-year-old woman was in her 20s, she had a one-night stand with a guy named Nathan and wound up pregnant.
She considered not going through with her pregnancy, but Nathan was completely opposed to that and really did want to keep the baby.
She then came to an agreement with Nathan; she would follow through with her pregnancy and sign over her parental rights to Nathan.
In exchange, Nathan agreed to pay all of her medical bills plus a bit more for her “troubles.” In the country where they live, a mom can opt not to put her name on a baby’s birth certificate, so when her baby was born, that’s what she did.
She handed the baby over to Nathan, and she never kept in contact with Nathan, let alone her daughter, after that. It’s now been 17 years, and she never even thought of her daughter until recently.
Several weeks ago, one of her friends who belongs to the same temple as Nathan sent her a photo of some of the kids in the youth group, and she realized that one girl looked pretty similar to her.
After a bit of digging on the internet, she realized this 17-year-old girl had to be the little girl she had given birth to.
She also found out that her daughter is very into charity work, adores music, and appears to be living a good life.
“I never wanted nor want to be a mother, but I became curious to know more about this human I put in the world, so I texted Nathan’s old phone number, which he has not changed, and asked if he would allow me to meet his daughter, since I gave birth to her and everything, and made my intentions clear: I do not want to interfere with his family, just to know her,” she explained.
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“He then wrote a long text which comes down to the fact that I am an asshole for wanting to know his daughter now after I “abandoned” her and that this meeting would only mess with her head. I told him I was telling him out of courtesy because soon, the girl will be an adult and be able to choose herself if she wants to meet me. He then blocked me.”
She really doesn’t see the problem with wanting to meet the girl that she gave birth to, especially since she thinks it would benefit her to know where she came from.
Regardless, she’s curious if it’s wrong of her to want to meet her daughter after 17 years of no contact.
Do you think she should try to meet her, or remain out of her life at this point in time?
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