She And Her Husband Usually Spend Christmas In Hawaii With Their Kids, But His Dad Passed Away Last Year, And He Wanted To Stay Home With His Mom, So She Ended Up Going To Hawaii With Her Kids Alone
Every single year, this woman and her family spend Christmas in Hawaii. And she has celebrated the holiday this way for as long as she can remember.
The tradition really began after she and her husband had kids and needed to reorganize their family Christmas plans– specifically because her in-laws wanted to carve out some time to spend with the kids.
So, she and her husband ultimately decided that they would celebrate Christmas with her in-laws on New Year’s. But, for the week of Christmas day, she, her husband, and her kids would go to Hawaii.
And this system had been working out flawlessly for her family. Well, that was until last year, when there was a death in the family.
Unfortunately, her husband’s father passed away during the holiday season in 2021. It understandably hit both her husband and her mother-in-law hard, too. So, they did not go to Hawaii for obvious reasons.
This year, though, they intended to get back to their usual tradition and planned out in advance how they would celebrate the whole holiday season.
For Thanksgiving, they decided to celebrate with his mother. Then, she, her husband, and the kids would get to celebrate Christmas in Hawaii since they missed out last year.
And the plans were all going well until right before their flight. Apparently, about a week before they were supposed to leave for Hawaii, her husband started to have some second thoughts about their trip.
Apparently, he felt pretty bad about leaving his mom alone after the loss of his dad and thought it would be better to stay back.
Anna – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual kids
“He said he really wanted to spend Christmas with his family and felt like his mom really needed it,” she added.
To be quite honest, though, she was pretty pissed. According to her, they had made a plan, and they saw her mother-in-law last month.
On top of that, she already had her own father purchase their plane tickets and hotel accommodations.
So, she believed that it would be beyond unfair to her, her father, and her kids to miss the Hawaii Christmas vacation for the second year in a row “just for his mom.”
“Who we would see a few days after we got back anyway,” she noted.
If you could not have guessed, though, her husband obviously did not agree with her perspective on the situation. And this caused them to get into an argument.
Then, her husband ended up proposing a different suggestion. She and the kids could go to Hawaii for Christmas alone; meanwhile, her husband would stay back to celebrate with his mom.
Now, they did both end up agreeing to do this, even though it was clear to her that her husband was really upset she was more willing to spend Christmas in Hawaii apart rather than be with her mother-in-law.
Nonetheless, they have since gone through with their separate plans anyway. So, now, she is currently in Hawaii trying to watch and “wrangle” the kids all by herself. At the same time, her husband is at home, and there is a lot of tension between them.
He has reportedly not texted her or really responded to her much at all.
And when she tries to call her husband, she claims that he only talks to her for a couple of minutes before asking to speak to their kids or trying to get off the phone entirely.
In turn, she is starting to feel kind of guilty and has been left wondering if leaving her husband alone on Christmas to go to Hawaii with their kids was a jerky thing to do or not.
Are grieving periods linear? Is it understandable why her husband wanted to stay back to celebrate the holiday with his mom? Should she have been more understanding, or does she have a right to fulfill her own Christmas traditions? Does it seem like she and her husband must have a more in-depth discussion about how this holiday tradition will work moving forward?
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