She Wants To Give Her Eldest Niece Some Of Her Mother’s Jewelry But Not Her Other Two Nieces Because They Are Still Too Young, And Her Brother Thinks That Is Totally Unfair
This thirty-year-old woman’s mother sadly passed away recently, and the loss was really tough on her.
“I was very close with my mother, and her death hit me hard emotionally,” she recalled.
Amidst the grief, though, she also had to deal with the inheritance that her mother had left behind. Both she and her brother inherited equal parts of her mother’s life savings.
Additionally, because she was her mother’s only daughter, she was left all of her mother’s jewelry. According to her, her mother had a fairly large jewelry collection that was made from various precious gems and metals– making the items very valuable.
The fact that she inherited the jewelry was not a shock to her, though, since she and her mother had actually discussed the items beforehand. And it was during those conversations that she learned her mother’s intentions for the accessories.
“[My mother] told me she wants the jewelry passed down from generation to generation for the women in the family,” she said.
And since her brother has three daughters– who are twenty, fifteen, and eleven years old– she planned to gift her eldest niece some of her grandmother’s jewelry. She also mentioned her decision to her brother.
Telling him might not have been the best idea, though, because he then asked if she would give some jewelry to his other two daughters, too.
And even though she did intend to gift them some pieces, she wanted to wait until they both turned eighteen and finished high school.
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“I think kids their age usually are not mature enough to understand the importance of the heirlooms or to take good care of them. When I was a teenager, lots of girls at my school would bring family jewelry to school, and it would be stolen,” she explained.
Her brother did not understand her concerns at all, though, and claimed that she was just being unfair. In fact, he said that if she planned on giving jewelry to her eldest niece, she should give jewelry to all of her nieces at the same time, or else some would feel left out.
To be honest, though, she just does not think that is reasonable. She believes that kids of different ages should be treated differently depending on the situation in order to ensure that they can act appropriately. Still, her brother just claims that she is acting selfishly and being way too harsh on her younger nieces.
On top of that, he pointed out how she is not the one who will have to deal with her two nieces being sad– he will.
So now, despite her own opinion on the matter, she has been left wondering if going against her brother’s wishes, giving only her eldest niece some jewelry, and leaving the other two nieces out would make her a jerk.
“There is not much my brother could do about it if I did. My eldest niece is financially independent and lives with her fiancé,” she noted.
Do you think her concerns about giving her younger nieces the family heirlooms right now are valid? Do you believe her brother not wanting to deal with his daughters’ upset is a good reason to risk the jewelry being mishandled? If you were in her shoes, what would you do?
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