Katharina Buczek
Finally, a third incident most recently really sent her over the edge. Over the past few weeks, she and her two roommates had been away for winter break.
Then, last week, Jess texted and said that she would be home on Friday morning. She then responded to Jess and informed her roommate that she would either be home on Friday night or Saturday morning.
By the time Friday afternoon rolled around, though, her boss had ended up informing her that there was an open Saturday shift at her job. So, she decided to take it and left her parent’s house– which is two hours from her rental home– at the same time.
Then, she texted Jess that she was heading out and would be back at about 7:30 p.m. or 8:00 p.m. To her shock, though, Jess hit her with another angry message.
“Are you serious? Not again. Your texts say you’re going to be back Saturday, and then you switched your plans around and gave me two hours warning,” Jess texted her.
Now, she normally just diffuses conflict by immediately apologizing. So, as much as it annoyed her, that is what she did.
She apologized to Jess for not letting her know earlier. Then, she even offered to stay the night at her parent’s house before driving back super early for work the following morning.
Anyway, after sharing this whole incident with her parents, though, they called her crazy for apologizing. Then, that forced her to reflect on the situation, and she decided to finally stand up for herself.
“I apologize that you were caught off guard again, but my texts in the group chat actually say I will be home tonight or tomorrow morning, so I’m not sure why this is unexpected,” she texted Jess.
“It was a quick decision to return tonight as my work plans changed, but I assumed since you expected me to possibly be home tonight, a few hours’ warning was enough. I think we need to have a discussion on your expectations for warning when I am home.”
Jess has not yet responded to her message, though, and now, she is honestly really stumped. She wants to understand Jess’ perspective but has never had an issue like this with a roommate before.
