Chip Chick
John ended up breaking his promise and started having 1 or 2 drinks every week, and he never did get sober as promised.
As time wore on, he kept breaking more promises he made to her and their children. He stayed out at night having drinks with different friends who didn’t support him staying away from alcohol.
“After the 3rd time he quit therapy, I gave him an ultimatum, get sober, or I was leaving him and taking the kids,” she said.
“I followed through with it. Mary and I stayed best friends after college, but John asked me to keep his drinking from his sister the first time around and didn’t want her to think he had a problem.”
“He was my husband, so I agreed if he worked on staying sober. When I divorced him, it appeared out of the blue to Mary and their parents, who couldn’t understand why I would up and leave her brother and adamantly take the kids, only letting him have visitation.”
Mary thought it was all her fault for divorcing John, and it made Mary want to stop being friends with her.
So, she confessed to Mary the real reason why she filed for divorce. She told Mary that she was still in love with John, but she couldn’t stand by and let him ruin her life or the life of their children since he refused to remain in therapy and couldn’t manage to get sober.
Mary honestly had no clue that John had an alcohol problem at all, and when she learned the truth, she was appalled.
“She got very emotional when I admitted to her how many times I let myself get excited for plans her brother made with me or the kids, only to be flaked on when her brother poured himself a drink after work,” she continued.
“She went to give John a piece of her mind and asked him to get his (act) together. John’s now extremely upset at me for spilling his secret that I’d promised to keep because “Mary’s image of him is now rubbish,” and his parents are disappointed in him too.”
“I think I had a right to explain myself to my best friend, and I no longer had a promise to keep after he broke his end of it.”
