His Brother Promised His Son That He Would Get To Be The Ringbearer, But Now That His Brother’s Fiancée Wants A Child-Free Wedding, He Believes His Brother Should Have To Explain That To His Son

About a year ago, this 31-year-old man’s brother, who is 34, was thinking of proposing. And at the time, his brother reportedly “reassured” his 5-year-old son that he would be the ringbearer at the wedding when the time came.
“This conversation occurred after he heard us talking about mine and his dad’s wedding,” he added.
“He was very offended that he was not invited despite the fact that he would not be conceived for another three years after the event. My son really latched onto this comment.”
Anyway, months later, his brother eventually proposed, and now, his brother and his brother’s fiancée are planning their wedding.
So, once he shared the news with his son, his son was overjoyed. On top of that, his son “immediately” started bragging to his younger son– who was not born when the initial conversation took place– that he got to be “the ring bear.”
To be honest, though, he never actually heard the proposal news from his brother. Instead, he actually found out from his mom and opted to tell his son right away.
Then, he decided to give his brother a congratulatory call and tell his brother how excited his eldest son was. But, during that conversation, his brother was forced to be the bearer of bad news.
Apparently, it came out that his brother’s fiancée was “pretty adamant” about having a child-free wedding.
In other words, he was told that the promise of his son being the ringbearer was not possible anymore.

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Now, he claims that was some pretty tough news to hear for a couple of reasons. Primarily, he knew that his son was going to be devastated. But, on a more practical note, the wedding being child-free was also going to make his and his husband’s lives a lot harder.
This is because right now, he and his husband are living abroad. So, they are not sure they will be able to find any childcare in time for his brother’s wedding.
In turn, they only have a few options right now– none of which they are very pleased with.
The first option is for him and his husband to fly to the wedding with their children but leave them to be watched by people they do not fully trust while attending the ceremony. After all, most of their “trusted family members” will also be attending the event.
Their second option is to leave both children behind while they go to the wedding. And, at home, a trusted friend would look after their kids.
“But this is not ideal since, thanks to flexible work schedules, we were planning to spend a month with our families following the wedding,” he explained.
So, he believes that flying in for the wedding, flying home to pick up his kids afterward, and then flying back for the extended celebration is just too exhausting. Plus, having his children fly alone is obviously not an option.
In turn, his third option would be just to not attend his brother’s wedding at all. But, of course, he does not want to miss it.
This pushed him to talk to his brother about his concerns, and his brother claimed that he would try to get the fiancée to reconsider the child-free rule.
Just last week, though, he spoke to his brother again. And apparently, he learned that his brother’s fiancée “put her foot down” about having no children at the event.
Now, he admits to feeling pretty hurt on behalf of his son. On top of that, he was forced to tell his brother that he would still try to make the wedding but said it was unlikely he and his husband would be able to attend.
“I also told my brother that if he even wanted us to consider coming, he would have to tell his nephew himself that he was going back on his promise and why,” he revealed.
According to him, his brother did not take that well at all, though. Instead, his brother claimed that it felt like he was issuing an ultimatum– making his brother choose between his family and his fiancée on what is supposed to be the happiest day of his life.
So, he got accused of being unfair; meanwhile, he told his brother that he should have never made a promise he could not keep.
And now, with the wedding quickly approaching, he has been left wondering whether insisting that his brother explain the child-free situation to his son is justified or not.
Do couples have a right to host child-free weddings? Does that mean his brother is allowed to bail on the promise made to his son, or should his brother have to deal with the fallout? How would you handle this situation?
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