She Loves Her Boyfriend, But He’s Not On The Same Level As Her Socially Or Intellectually, So She’s Not Sure If She Should Stay With Him Even Though He Wants To Get Engaged To Her

This 24-year-old girl has a boyfriend who is 29, and they have been dating for the last 2 years now.
From the moment she met her boyfriend, she was absolutely aware that they were just on different levels intellectually and socially, but she didn’t really mind.
She ended up falling in love with her boyfriend despite their major differences. Now, what she means about being on different levels is that she’s currently completing her Master’s degree, whereas her boyfriend didn’t ever attend college.
While she doesn’t say that’s necessarily “wrong,” she believes that’s the reason why she can’t really have conversations about certain subjects with her boyfriend.
He either doesn’t really understand specific things related to policits, culture, and society in general, or he doesn’t really have a way to speak to her about the things that matter to her.
And speaking of politics, she and her boyfriend’s family couldn’t be more polar opposites in that department.
Anytime she does go to see her boyfriend’s family, it’s difficult for her to be around them and have to witness the things they say that she claims are “ignorant.”
She and her boyfriend have gotten into many arguments about his family’s beliefs, but she knows she can’t just change their opinions.
In an effort to get her boyfriend to be a little more worldly, she has tried to get him interested in things that would expand his horizons.

Margo Basarab – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“I’ve encouraged him to read more books or even consider going back to school, but he just couldn’t – he would rather spend time on TikTok, YouTube, or video games,” she explained.
“He is very comfortable with his current life and never thought to change, although I feel like he could be a bit more ambitious. For this matter, I struggled to introduce him to my friends because I’m really afraid he is going to say something insensitive that may offend somebody. I know this is wrong, but I would feel really awkward when I bring him to my cohort/colleagues because he sounds “dumb.”
“I also don’t quite get along with his friends – they are very nice people, but none of them have gone to college. You can say they are your typical working class/blue collar crowds (and nothing wrong with that, I respect what they do, it’s just I find I have little in common with them).”
All of the above things are making her question staying with her boyfriend. But, on to the good: her boyfriend is honest and thoughtful.
He makes anything she needs his top priority. He is actually super into the outdoors, and she is too.
She loves being around him, and even though his boyfriend’s family doesn’t agree with her beliefs, they treat her wonderfully; in fact, better than her family.
“He had informally proposed to me recently, but I told him I couldn’t decide yet,” she said. “I love him, but I really struggle to see if this would work. My friends have told me multiple times that I could and should find someone better, but I still have much love for him that I couldn’t break things off.”
“Meanwhile, I don’t want to waste mine or his time if this doesn’t work in the end. I feel like it could work if he makes some changes to his life and really works on himself, but I just don’t see that happening despite I’ve communicated that to him clearly multiple times. What should I do?”
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