He Lied To His Fiancée And Said He Still Finds Her Attractive Despite Her Significant Weight Gain, And He Thinks He Messed Up Big Time By Not Being Honest
This 24-year-old man is currently engaged, and he and his 22-year-old fiancée have been with one another for close to 4 years.
He admits that they both have been “chubby” throughout their relationship, but after the pandemic hit, they really did put on a lot of weight.
They ordered a ton of takeout and didn’t get a lot of exercise, so that really contributed to their weight gain during lockdown.
“I’ve had issues with food in the past and am currently also fat, much lighter than my heaviest, which has been a long, difficult process,” he explained.
“I included this because I don’t want to sound like a hypocrite. But my whole lifestyle has changed. I go to the gym 5 days a week and have for a while now; I walk everywhere and limit my calories a lot.”
Although he is making changes in order to be more healthy, his fiancée is not. She doesn’t think that her weight is an issue, even though he has brought up to her in the past that he’s not super attracted to her anymore.
After that conversation, his fiancée tried for approximately a month to lose weight, only to go right back to her bad eating habits.
He’s not looking for his fiancée to be stick thin, but he says that right now, she weighs more than “a light heavyweight UFC fighter,” and she’s only 5’4″.
His fiancée’s belly pushes out further than her chest does, and her face has doubled in size. Diabetes runs in his fiancée’s family, so he has a major concern for her health along with her weight gain.
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It guts him to have to be honest with the way that his fiancée looks, and he really does love her a lot.
They never get into fights, and they both are parents to a wonderful little boy, so aside from her weight, everything is excellent.
“Other than some laziness on her part, and sometimes mine, we get on extremely well,” he said. “But I think it’s normal to be attracted to your partner, and I’m just not.”
“…My eyes do wander in the gym when I see a girl in great shape, I really wish I had that, and the thing that makes it worse is that my previous…partners did look like that…”
His fiancée also constantly talks about how she is in pain or dizzy, and he is aware that it all comes down to the fact that she’s not healthy.
She also only pretty much eats chicken nuggets or chips, and it also makes it harder for him to eat healthy when his home is full of junk food.
Recently, the topic of his fiancée’s size came up, and he lied to her face about how he truly feels.
“I lied for her mental well-being and told her I was still attracted to her regardless of her size,” he continued.
“I don’t know why I said it, perhaps wanting to be nice, but I feel like I’ve really (messed) up by lying to her.”
“I always wanted an active girlfriend I could explore with, but I have essentially the opposite. I would have left by now if it wasn’t for my son. But I deserve happiness too.”
He knows he messed up big time by not being honest, and he’s left wondering how to handle things moving forward.
What advice would you give him?
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