His Girlfriend’s Parents Passed Away Right As He Was About To Dump Her, So He Held Off On The Breakup, But Now He’s Wondering When The Right Time To Follow Through Is
This 31-year-old man has been dating his 27-year-old girlfriend for a little under 4 years. Just 2 months into their relationship, he and his girlfriend suddenly had to do long distance due to the pandemic.
When the lockdown stopped, he and his girlfriend moved in with one another, and he moved to the country where she is from.
They lived together from September 2022 to February of this year. During the 6 months he spent living with his girlfriend, he had a shocking revelation; his girlfriend just wasn’t the one for him.
He knew there was zero chance of him having an enjoyable relationship with his girlfriend in the “long term.”
“Oh man, I think the primary issue I have with her is that she’s just really mean,” he explained. “Not just to me, but to her sister, her friends, and her colleagues, too. She routinely blows up at me and others for innocent things that she will somehow flip into disrespect. She’ll go days without taking after.”
“Aside from that, she takes zero interest in any of the things that I like. She can’t even be bothered to sit through a 30-second basketball clip or a song that I like. Meanwhile, if I’m not outwardly enthusiastic about things she’s showing me, even if they’re things I’m not interested in, it’s a fight.”
“She’s also one of these people that’s just negative about everything? Any food we have isn’t good. Any movie we watch sucks. Any place we travel to is just “eh, I’ve seen nicer.” I took her to one of the best beaches in the world (Flic En Flac, Mauritius), and she said it was just okay.”
So, this February, he was supposed to fly home for good, and he thought that would be a great opportunity to dump her before he headed back.
But then, right before he was set to leave, his girlfriend’s mom and dad ended up passing away unexpectedly.
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He decided to push his flight home back and spend an additional couple of weeks with his girlfriend so he could be there to support her through her grief.
Eventually, he had no choice but to return home, so he did, but he did not follow through with the breakup before leaving.
“I’ve been as supportive as possible over the phone since I’ve gotten back home,” he said. “And my will to break things off has faded significantly.”
“I can’t really see myself doing it at all now. She really relies on me for support, as she only really has me and her sister, and her sister is a resident physician working 80+ hrs a week. So most of the support falls to me.”
“None of my reasons for why we aren’t right for each other or why I won’t be happy with her have changed. If anything, they’ve become more obvious as I’ve gotten some space from her. But I don’t want her to have to lose me now after having lost her parents.”
He’s really not sure how to move forward with dumping his girlfriend, as it does need to happen, but he feels sympathetic to her situation.
When do you think he should dump his girlfriend; should he just rip the bandaid off and do it now, or should he wait?
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