She’s Refusing To Make Her Miracle Baby Niece The Flower Girl At Her Wedding Because She Already Promised The Role To Her Future Stepdaughter, And Her Brother And Sister-In-Law Are Furious
This 27-year-old woman’s brother and sister-in-law– who are both in their mid-thirties– spent years trying to conceive a child. Her sister-in-law was even told that, due to a medical condition, they would never be able to have kids.
But, about a year and a half ago, her brother and sister-in-law welcomed their first baby girl into the world. And obviously, everyone was ecstatic for the couple.
Ever since her niece was born, though, the baby has apparently been the center of attention at every single family event– from birthdays and weddings to simple family get-togethers.
So, while she absolutely loves her niece, she believes that her sister-in-law can be a bit “much”– going on and on about the conceiving process, pregnancy complications, past miscarriages, and more.
“Like a little too much information,” she said.
“And many family members have commented on how it’s a little bit excessive, but no one has said anything because they don’t want to sound like a jerk.”
Since she and her fiancé, who is 35, will be getting married in the spring, her brother and sister-in-law also approached her last week regarding her wedding. More specifically, they wanted to know if her niece could be the flower girl during the ceremony.
But, her fiancé already has two children– a 10-year-old son and a 6-year-old daughter– from his previous marriage. So, his son will be one of the groomsmen; meanwhile, his daughter already asked to be the flower girl about a year ago.
And, of course, she and her fiancé said yes at the time. After all, her future stepdaughter was beyond excited about the role and was the first to ask.
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After her sister asked about her niece being the flower girl, she explained all of this, too. Rather than just leaving it alone, though, her sister-in-law asked if her fiancé’s daughter could just carry her niece down the aisle also!
“I said I don’t think she would be comfortable with that, considering she is 6,” she recalled.
Then, her sister-in-law asked why she couldn’t just give that role to her niece– and allow her sister-in-law to carry her niece down the aisle as the flower girl.
Obviously, though, she just pointed out how she had already promised the role to her future stepdaughter.
But shockingly, her sister-in-law had a major issue with that. In fact, her sister-in-law apparently started going off on her about how her lack of effort in incorporating her niece into her wedding was “disgusting.”
She also got told that she should be “honoring” her niece in some way– being that she knew how long and hard her brother and sister-in-law tried to conceive.
Quite frankly, though, her sister-in-law’s accusations really got under her skin, and she wound up snapping.
“Incorporate my niece, how?” she asked her sister-in-law.
“By the time the wedding comes around, she’ll be 2-years-old. The entire family already knows your story about how long and hard you guys tried for her. What more do you expect me to do to honor her?”
After she said that, her sister-in-law ended up crying and claiming that she “clearly” did not love her “one and only niece.” She also got accused of letting her niece down.
She obviously loves her niece, though, and wants her niece to be involved in photos and other traditions. However, she refuses to let her stepdaughter down by giving her niece a role in the wedding when her niece is still too young to even remember it.
Regardless, her brother and sister-in-law refuse to understand her point and are now furious with her for not making her niece the flower girl. They have even begun running and telling other family members that she does not love her niece.
Her mom is reportedly neutral in the whole debate– but believes that her stepdaughter would understand if she explained the situation and gave the role to her niece.
Honestly, though, she plans to stand firm in her decision. Her fiancé is also really thankful that she will not be letting his daughter down.
Still, with her brother and sister-in-law furious with her, she has been left wondering whether not letting her miracle baby niece be the flower girl at her wedding makes her a jerk or not.
Do you think she is required to honor her niece at her wedding? Is allowing her fiancé’s daughter to be the flower girl a great way to show her commitment as a new stepmom? Why do you think her brother and sister-in-law don’t understand that? If you were in her shoes, what would you do?
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