His Ex-Girlfriend Is Moving On, But He Isn’t Sure How To Finally Give Up On Their Relationship
This 26-year-old guy and his ex-girlfriend, who is 24, had been in a relationship for over a year. And apparently, she was his first real love.
While together, they outlined a bunch of plans for their future together and were head over heels for each other.
So, they never really had any arguments. Well, except for disagreements about one specific subject: his ex kept pushing for him to take the next step and move in with her.
At the time, however, he was also financially helping his mother pay her rent. And that was reportedly an issue for his ex-girlfriend.
“I told her I would happily move in with her, but until the tenancy is up, I’ll still be contributing rent to my mother and hers when I move in,” he recalled.
Still, his ex-girlfriend didn’t understand and just felt like he had chosen his family over their relationship. So, more arguments followed, and they wound up breaking up for about a month.
But, their split was not long-lasting– because after a month’s time, they decided to give their relationship a second try.
And not long afterward, his ex-girlfriend was left feeling unsatisfied again. To her, it seemed like they were both slipping back into old patterns instead of moving forward.
“She would get frustrated with things I say and see it more as talk rather than action, which was why we broke up in the first place,” he explained.
Svetlana Sokolova – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
So, they split up again. And since then, he has really started to work on himself– finally “walking the walk” instead of just “talking the talk.”
He finally has a new job lined up, and he is planning on moving out at the end of the year. Plus, he has started going to therapy and claimed he is working on a lot of self-improvement. Even throughout all of these life changes, though, he is still pretty hung up on his ex-girlfriend. In fact, he believes they both really love each other but are just a victim of circumstances.
“I take ownership of most of those, but I fail to understand why she wasn’t willing to compromise like I had or wait a little bit longer,” he admitted.
That’s why, after not speaking to his ex for a month, he decided to reach out to her. He ultimately detailed how his self-improvement journey was going and revealed how he still wanted her to be a part of his life.
But unfortunately, his ex-girlfriend claimed to be moving on and said he no longer fits in her life anymore. And he respected her decision, too, and made sure to tell his ex that.
Still, later that evening, his ex reached out and claimed that his message was messing with her head– which was not his intention at all. So, he apologized and explained how he just wanted to voice his feelings. Regardless, ever since then, he’s been left wondering what to do and when he should just give up on their relationship– even though he might not be ready.
“Respectfully, I know I should give up and leave it be. I don’t wish to contact her or cause her any more distress,” he vented.
Does it sound like his ex-girlfriend is interested in giving their relationship another go? Is this the time for him to start moving on and focusing on himself? How can he get over his ex? What would you do?
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