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He disagreed with her and explained that he had a bottle of wine in his shopping bag but suggested that they save it for later on in the date.
“It’s just this negative, controlling attitude between the bar and then controlling when we drink; it just felt really, really weird all around,” she recalls.
He then went on a whole spiel implying that people who drink on dates are doing so to hide their nervousness and insecurities.
She disagrees with him and starts explaining that a lot of people drink because they enjoy the flavor and that it’s not necessarily an act that should be looked into quite that much.
Next, he starts to bring up larger topics such as politics, religion, and work and begins to ask her bigger questions.
Turns out, they work in similar fields, and she then asks him how he enjoys his job and asks him for tips on the career.
“He’s like, ‘I don’t want to talk about work. I hate talking about work. Why is everybody in New York have to interview each other about their job’ even though he was just asking me all of these questions about politics and religion,” she detailed.
“If he wasn’t in control of the conversation and what we were talking about, he would like get really cagey and strange.”
At this point, that date had been going on for 30 minutes, and they still do not have their drinks, and she was not enjoying the way he was conversing with her.
So, she decides to tell him she does not feel a connection and feels as though they would be wasting each other’s time if they let the date continue.
She thanked him and hoped that her honesty would be appreciated. However, the guy was very surprised and looked at her with a shocked expression! He obviously thought the date was going well on his end until she expressed her truth to him.
