She Thinks She Might Be The Other Woman After She Started Seeing A New Guy Who Has One Ridiculous Story After Another
At the beginning of this year, this 26-year-old woman intended to date as many people as possible. After all, she never really casually dated and wanted to give it a go.
After she went on a few dates, though, she wound up meeting one 33-year-old guy named Dan. They first spoke on Bumble before moving over to WhatsApp to text.
And while on WhatsApp, she realized Dan’s profile picture was of him with a little girl.
Now, this little girl ended up being his 10-year-old daughter– who he never mentioned having. While the idea of a partner having kids might not have been cool with her in other situations, though, she apparently surprised herself and did not mind that Dan had a daughter.
So, they proceeded to get to know each other and reportedly had a great rapport. That’s why she really wanted to meet up in person. And once they formally met, she thought their chemistry was totally electric.
Afterward, she really wanted to meet up with Dan again. So they made plans to hang out the following evening.
“But I already had plans to meet someone for coffee that afternoon,” she recalled.
“And it was nice, but not anything like when I met Dan.”
Still, her coffee date with another guy came up when she saw Dan later that day. While he was jealous, though, she found Dan’s reaction insanely attractive.
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On top of that, Dan started expressing some interest in exclusivity. More specifically, he told her that he wanted to plan a proper date in order to prevent the chance of him “getting hurt by her.”
At that point, she reassured Dan that she would not see anyone else. Then, later that same day, he even asked her to visit him at work while he snuck out of the office.
“And we got frisky in the car before I went out to dinner with friends,” she recalled.
After she went out to eat that night, though, things started to get a bit fishy.
It all began after she tried to text Dan and realized that none of her messages were going through. At first, she tried to just ignore her suspicion that perhaps Dan had just blocked her.
However, by the following morning, she realized that was exactly what had happened. And honestly, she was seriously so hurt and confused.
That’s why she decided to reach out to Dan on Bumble. However, he had a seriously long-winded explanation about why she had gotten blocked.
Apparently, Dan claimed that he had to take his daughter to the hospital after his ex-wife accidentally slammed the car door on his daughter’s finger and actually chopped a piece off.
Plus, Dan swore that his ex-wife’s cell phone had died– meaning that his ex needed to borrow his. So, he claimed to have blocked her number to prevent his ex from receiving any of her messages.
Now, she revealed how she really did not believe Dan in the beginning. But she was eventually able to be convinced that he had been telling the truth, and she thought that was the end of it.
Well, she was far from wrong.
Dan proceeded to inform her that he and his ex-wife were actually still technically married since they had been in a divorce battle for the past two years.
“The whole thing is a little suspicious,” she admitted. “But I believed him. Like 70% of me did.”
Dan kept going, too, and told her that he could not get involved in any serious relationships since that information could hurt him in the divorce if it ever came out in the courtroom.
Anyway, it appears that she accepted Dan’s whole story after a while, and they continued seeing each other. And eventually, it came time that they wanted to hook up.
She lives with her dad, though, which could make for a seriously awkward situation. That’s why she wound up asking Dan if they could just go to his place. After all, Dan only ever had his daughter on the weekends and for one night each week.
But yet again, Dan had more elaborate excuses. This time, he actually tried to say that his ex-wife had cameras installed at his house and still had access to the video footage on her phone.
Still, she opted to believe him and just made plans to make sure her dad was not home. Then, Dan wound up going over to her house for some alone time.
This particular hangout occurred in the afternoon, though, meaning that Dan had to lie in order to get out of work. Plus, once they were finished spending time together, Dan actually had to go back to the office.
That’s when he wound up accidentally leaving his work ID at her house. And upon finding it, she realized that he actually had a different last name listed with his employer.
Obviously, that was offputting, and she decided to question Dan about the discrepancy. But, surprise, surprise, he offered up another story.
“He hinted that it had something to do with him being a foreigner. And I grilled him later with questions, and he answered them, but I was not satisfied at first,” she explained.
Somehow, though, Dan was able to convince her again that he was really telling the truth. So, she decided to keep talking to him and wound up being told even more bizarre excuses and lies. First, when she wanted to finally spend the night with him, Dan claimed that he couldn’t– because apparently, he had only ever spent the night with his ex-wife.
Then, as they continued talking, she realized that Dan would always turn his phone off late in the afternoon on Friday and only turn it back on once it reached Sunday. Now, Dan claimed he did this for Shabbat– because he was Jewish and French.
More recently, though, she learned that Shabat actually ends on Saturday evenings. So, all of Dan’s claims have started to seem a bit suspicious to her, and she is not sure what to think.
On the one hand, she believes Dan genuinely seems sincere. Plus, she admitted to having real feelings for him– which he seems to reciprocate. But, on the other hand, she revealed how she is also starting to think that she might be “the other woman.”
“How do I tell if he is actually married and isn’t just lying to me?” she asked. “I really don’t want to be a home wrecker or even take any part in an affair.”
So now, she’s been left wondering what to really think about Dan and how to handle this situation.
Does it seem like Dan comes up with one lie after another? Or could he be telling the truth? If you were in her shoes, would you continue trusting him and going along with his stories? Or do you think she should get out of this relationship?
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