She Told Her Friend That The Reason Why He Can’t Get Dates Is That He No Longer Looks Like The Photos On His Profile, So He’s Pretty Much Catfishing Girls
Last weekend, this 29-year-old woman met up with a bunch of her friends who she doesn’t get to see very often. But, her friend group makes it a priority to catch up a couple of times a year– which she looks forward to.
And since three of her friends were newly single, the topic of dating apps wound up coming up in conversation.
It was then that one of her friends, Jake, who is 30, started complaining about how he could never get a second date with any girl he went out with. Plus, Jake claimed to have no idea why that was the case.
He detailed how he always got a ton of matches on dating apps and landed plenty of first dates. Yet, none of the girls he goes out with ever give him a second chance.
While Jake was talking about his dating struggles, he also took out his phone to show everyone his Tinder profile. And at that moment, she claimed it was glaringly obvious why no one ever went out with her friend for a second time.
“Let’s just say that his pictures do not reflect what he looks like now,” she said. “I don’t want to be mean, but the Corona lockdown and the whole situation really took a toll on Jake.”
Apparently, her friend used to be a very fit guy who sported thick long hair and was “conventionally attractive.”
And on his Tinder profile, that’s how he looked– because he used about five photos, taken between five and seven years ago, in which he appeared much younger and even had abs.
During the COVID-19 pandemic, though, Jake really started to struggle. First, he was laid off from his job. Then, his father passed away following a long fight with an illness. And to top it all off, Jake later broke up with his girlfriend.
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So, she admitted that her friend had really let himself go– at least in a physical sense.
“And maybe he didn’t even let himself go. These are the consequences of the mental pressures he has been facing,” she explained.
“He is now somewhat overweight, and he shaved his head because he started losing his hair.”
That’s why, even though she knows that Jake is an amazing person who has survived a lot of turmoil, she kind of thinks that Jake’s Tinder profile is borderline catfishing since she knows what he truly looks like now.
Obviously, the photos are of him. But, she claimed it was hard to even recognize Jake now by just looking at the photos.
So, she realized that all of the girls Jake met up with were probably shocked and might have even felt tricked. She also admitted how, if she were in that situation, she probably wouldn’t want to go out on a second date, either.
Still, she decided to hold her tongue at first. Well, that was until all of her friends headed outside to smoke– leaving just her and Jake inside the restaurant.
At that point, once they were alone, she simply asked Jake if he had ever considered updating his Tinder profile with a few more recent photos.
Jake immediately shot that idea down, though, and said he liked the pictures he already had.
But, she genuinely wanted to help her friend out and tried to gently explain her perspective.
“Well, you know, I’m sure you want your Tinder photos to reflect who you are. You should post nice and flattering pics, but you still want to be you!” she told Jake.
Yet, unfortunately, the whole conversation only went downhill from there. Apparently, Jake became extremely defensive and kept reiterating that it was him in the pictures. Then, he tried calling her out for saying it wasn’t really Jake just because he had gained some weight.
Eventually, their friends also walked back into the restaurant, too, which was around the same time that Jake began to raise his voice at her. Plus, Jake even told everyone that she said he couldn’t land dates because he was “ugly now.”
Finally, once the blowup was finished, Jake just threw some cash on the table before leaving the restaurant. And since that incident, he has refused to talk to her yet has continued telling all of their friends that she called him ugly.
So, she has been seriously struggling to understand what happened and why Jake blew up on her.
“I am starting to feel bad for having said anything. I know he had struggled over the past years, and I feel [terrible] that he believes I think he’s ugly,” she vented.
That’s why she’s now been left wondering whether being honest with Jake about why he hasn’t landed any second dates was the wrong thing to do or not.
Would you go on a second date with a guy if they didn’t look like their Tinder profile? Do you think she did the right thing by being honest with Jake? Does it sound like she was trying to be mean or just help him out?
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