She Realized That Consistent Communication Really Soothed Her Anxious Attachment Issues In Romantic Relationships
This 29-year-old woman revealed how, due to various reasons, she has pretty severe anxious attachment issues. So, she has been doing a lot of inner work– including going to therapy.
Nonetheless, her anxiety always “pops up” whenever she enters a relationship. And it doesn’t matter who she is seeing at the time.
More recently, however, she entered a new relationship and has been dating a guy for about two months.
They initially met after matching on a dating app. And ever since then, she detailed how he was always a solid communicator.
“He was extremely consistent with his communication and always followed through on what he said he would do,” she recalled.
Now, it’s not like she and her new boyfriend were texting each other all day, every day. Instead, they just found a great routine that works for them.
More specifically, one person sends a “good morning” text. Then, throughout the day, they exchange a few texts in the morning and some in the evening. Finally, someone sends a “goodnight” text, and that’s it.
All in all, they probably only exchange between six and eight texts per day. And since they became exclusive, she and her boyfriend have not missed a day of this routine– which she claimed has significantly helped soothe her anxiety.
“I never wonder where I stand with him,” she explained.
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“And he is extremely open with me and consistent in everything he does.”
That’s why, for her, this new routine has been a breakthrough. In the past, she thought she needed to be constantly texting her partner all day, every day, in order to calm her anxiety.
Now, though, she realized that she actually needed the opposite.
“We don’t text much at all, but it’s so consistent, and it’s been really wonderful for someone like me with pretty bad anxiety,” she said.
She did admit that she still gets some anxiety flare-ups. But, they are never caused by her boyfriend– which has led her to believe that consistent communication is the key to successfully dating while living with anxious attachment.
Have you ever struggled with anxious attachment? Do you agree that consistent communication helps lessen anxiety? What else helps while in a romantic relationship?
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