She’s Feeling Anxious After Her Boyfriend Revealed His Feelings On Marriage, Which Are Quite Different From Hers

Chip Chick |

Jun 17, 2023

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These days, it’s common for people to have different opinions on marriage. Although marriage used to be essential for most couples, many couples today choose not to for several reasons.

One young woman feels a little anxious after her boyfriend of seven months revealed his feelings on marriage, which are quite different from hers.

She’s 24-years-old, and her boyfriend is 26. They’ve been together just shy of seven months. She really loves him and thinks he’s wonderful. They’ve been talking about moving in together, so she’s been thinking about her future with him.

They recently attended a baby shower for a happy, expecting couple who are not planning on ever getting married. That prompted a discussion between them as they drove home and started discussing marriage.

Her boyfriend started talking about how if he were to get married, he wouldn’t want to spend money on a wedding and would rather save up for a great honeymoon. She agreed with that since she loves him so much that she’d be okay with simply eloping in the future.

But then, her boyfriend surprised her when he said there was no reason to get married other than for legal purposes. That made her very sad.

“To me, marriage is about love,” she said.

“The reason to get married is that you are going to spend your life with that person. You are committed for life. It’s on paper that whatever happens, we are one unit. Even when we are upset with one another, even when we clash, even when we make mistakes.”

She hopes that one day she’d get married because it’s a sign of extra commitment to your life partner and is a promise that you’ll stand by each other through the highs and lows.

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She hardly said anything in the car with her boyfriend since she was still pretty shocked by what he said.

Now, she’s not sure how to go about expressing these feelings with him and worries that she may be overthinking their situation. However, she knows she wants to ensure they’re on the same page before moving in together.

“It would hurt me to get married to him one day, knowing that he doesn’t want to get married because he loves me but because it makes sense legally,” she explained.

“I know he loves me, but I want him to want to get married for love.”

How should she approach this discussion with her boyfriend?

You can read the original post on Reddit here.

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