Women Who Consider Themselves “Average-Looking” Discuss Their Dating Lives And Strategies For Success
This single woman doesn’t think that she is particularly attractive. Instead, she genuinely thinks that she is just an average-looking girl.
“Even considered ugly to some,” she added.
That’s why her experience in the dating pool has been pretty terrible. So, she recently asked other “average-looking” women how they are faring as they search for romantic partners.
“Am I alone in this struggle? How are you going about things?” she asked.
She Feels Like She Might Have To Just Settle
“I’d consider myself average. I don’t like online dating, so I stay away from it. It feels too forced to me.”
“And I’m pretty shy in real life, so my dating life is nonexistent. I could probably find a guy or two willing to hook up, but I’m not exactly impressed with my likely options on that route.”
“My loneliness is starting to get the best of me, though, so I might give one of those guys a shot. I’ll likely kick myself for it, but I’m not getting any younger. And I’ve been in long-term relationships before, but I never really found anyone who gets me.”
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She Would Rather Remain Single Than Compromise Her Boundaries
“My dating life is nonexistent, too. Men only want to use me. When I make it clear that I won’t [hook up] so quickly with them, they disappear.”
“I have heard the fake toxic positivity advice people constantly post about ‘being confident’ and how ‘the right person will come along.’ In the end, meaningless platitudes are still meaningless platitudes.”
“I have just stopped caring at this point. I would rather remain single than allow a man to treat me like this. At least I can feel good that I have never let someone walk all over my boundaries.”
“It also doesn’t help that, on dating apps, so many men are expecting Instagram model levels of beauty. Even men who are below average-looking themselves have high standards now.”
She Altered Her Approach To Dating And Emphasized What She Can Bring To The Table
“Recently, I’ve adapted a really body-neutral attitude to my pretty average looks, and it has helped me a lot. I’ve embraced that my strongest currency just isn’t my looks, and I just lead with what I actually bring to the table.”
“Fighting hard to come across as hot is exhausting and not something I can keep up with. So, I’ve made my dating profiles personality-centered. I have pictures of me mid-laugh or doing fun things and have jokes in my bio. The vibe is fun and easygoing like I am!”
“It’s been 1,000 times more successful than when I was trying to come across as really attractive, and I worry a lot less about what they’ll think of me on a first date because they already have a sense of me.”
“I feel like the quality of matches I have are a lot higher, too. It’s easy to say, but a body-neutral attitude to my looks has helped my dating journey a lot and has helped my confidence a lot.”
She Agrees That Knowing What You Bring To The Table And Being Confident About It Is Key
“I consider myself pretty average looking. I get called cute a lot more than beautiful. I have some great features and some weird ones. I’m also overweight.”
“I have never had an issue finding people to date. I think because I am naturally pretty confident, outgoing, and have a lot going for me outside of physical appearance.”
“I met my current partner on Tinder, and he is a babe. I think the biggest thing is you have to know what you deserve– which is a very cute catch of a partner– and go after it like you’re the hottest girl on the planet.”
Do you consider yourself “average-looking?” Have you found that dating is especially difficult? Do you have any tips for other women in the same boat?
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