He Wants To Figure Out If A Girl Lost Interest In Him Without Coming Across As Needy
This 24-year-old guy started seeing a 24-year-old girl a little over two weeks ago. And in the beginning, everything seemed to be going great.
Within the first week, they went on three stellar dates together. He claimed that there was a lot of flirting, close moments, and deep conversations about their lives.
In between those dates, he and the girl were also texting a lot and talking on the phone every single day. Sometimes, the phone calls lasted for a few minutes; other times, they would catch up for several hours.
Following their most recent date last week, though, he feels like the girl’s interest in him has decreased significantly.
Before, they would both work to start text conversations and initiate phone calls. However, it now feels like he is the only one reaching out and hoping for a reply. Not to mention the girl is taking a lot longer to respond to him than before.
“She did mention that she’s been busy with work,” he reasoned.
“Although, when that was the case previously, she would tell me that and then text me after meetings or on her lunch break. Her texts recently also feel direr, and we haven’t called since we last met up.”
And while reflecting on the situation, he realized that he might have messed up.
A few days ago, he was supposed to meet up with the girl during the daytime. But, something came up, and the girl was unable to reschedule for the evening since she claimed she wanted some alone time.
Angela – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
That’s why he decided to give her some space and did not reach out. Yet, the next day when they were texting, the girl apparently brought up his lack of communication in a passing comment over text. That made him think that the girl was annoyed with him for not texting her.
“I proceeded to overcompensate for this by essentially being a bit of a ‘pick me’ to show that I cared about her, saying things like, ‘I miss you,’ or, ‘Feel free to call me, but I know you’re busy,’ quite a few times.”
His “pick me” energy has not changed the girl’s attitude toward him, though. And based on their more recent conversations, he thinks it’s pretty clear that she has now just lost interest in him.
So, he realizes it might just be best to move on, and he might just have to accept that the girl isn’t that into him anymore. But he really, really does like her.
And due to their upcoming conflicting schedules, he is not able to talk to the girl in person to figure out how she feels. He also doesn’t want to text her and ask outright because, to him, that seems needy and may just worsen the situation.
So now, he’s been left wondering how to gauge the situation and figure out, once and for all, whether the girl is still interested in him or not.
Do you agree that he might have pushed the girl away by coming on too strong following their canceled plans? Or might the girl just have something else going on right now that is causing her to be less communicative? How do you suggest he handle this situation?
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