Her Ex-Boyfriend Moved Out After They Broke Up, So She Doesn’t Want To Give Him Back The Security Deposit

During the COVID-19 pandemic, this woman and her ex-boyfriend decided to move in together simply because it was convenient. And at the time, they had only been dating for about eight months.
So, over time, they started to drift apart– mainly because they had two completely different ideas of what was “fun.”
For instance, her ex-boyfriend loved getting intoxicated and having snacks; meanwhile, she liked reading or watching movies.
Not to mention, they also had different love languages. While her ex loved physical touch, she always had a difficult time with physical contact.
Still, another year passed by, and she and her ex wound up moving in with some of her friends in a bigger house.
However, just three months into that lease, she and her ex broke up. Then, he moved out since the lease included her friends.
But prior to moving in, they had both paid a security deposit– which, in her opinion, was relatively small compared to the norm in her local area.
The security deposit was approximately $650 at the beginning of the lease. Additionally, they agreed to split monthly rent costs evenly.
With her ex moving out, though, their portion of the rent was going to fall completely on her shoulders.

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“And I could somewhat afford it comfortably if I budgeted well, but it was still more than I expected to pay on my own,” she recalled.
Regardless, she was forced to stick it out. And this year, she and her friend decided to renew the lease again.
However, a lot of the people in the house were switching out– with other people taking their spots.
That’s why her landlord decided to draw up an entirely new lease, have everyone sign it, and send in a new security deposit.
But that meant that she got the old security deposit back and currently has the $650 both she and her ex paid in her possession.
To be honest, though, she really does not want to reach out to her ex and give the money back.
“We don’t talk to one another except for maybe a ‘happy birthday’ text and a polite ‘thank you,'” she reasoned.
Although, some of her friends think that she would be in the wrong if she didn’t give it back since they believe that her ex could be struggling financially right now and need the money.
Still, she doesn’t really understand one part of the situation: why her ex wouldn’t just reach out to her for the security deposit back on his own. After all, it’s not like she has him blocked or anything.
“And if it’s not important enough to remember, then should I just not say anything and keep his part since I did end up having to pay more in rent because he left?” she asked.
Some of her other friends do agree with her and believe that since her ex never asked for the deposit back, she should just keep it.
Regardless, since she got a bunch of mixed opinions, she’s been left wondering whether keeping her ex’s portion of the security deposit would be wrong or not.
Is her ex entitled to part of the security deposit if some of it was his money? Or did he forfeit his right to the funds by moving out early and leaving her to pay the rent by herself? Would you give your ex the deposit back if you were in her shoes?
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