As we get older and watch our friends get married and have kids, a whole lot of feelings begin flying around.
One woman recently upset her friend after giving her honest feedback on her pregnancy.
She’s 26-years-old and has a friend who is the same age. Her friend has been married to her 29-year-old husband for a few years, and she recently found out they’re expecting a baby.
Unfortunately, she wasn’t as excited for her friends as a lot of other people were.
“My friend has always had baby fever,” she said.
“I’m mainly concerned about their ability to be parents. They both work full-time and when they get home, they complain they are too tired to take care of stuff around the house.”
Much of her concern has to do with her friends’ messy and laid-back lifestyle. They often eat out for meals because they’re either too lazy to cook or don’t know how to. Her friends are also quite messy, and she’s used to seeing their house in chaotic disarray.
Something else that worries her is her friends’ money management skills. She’s noticed that they’ll often prioritize material items instead of essentials and have had moments where they’ve struggled financially because of their spending habits.
Finally, she doesn’t think her friends have a great living space for raising a baby. Their house is very small, and she doesn’t think it’s a safe environment.
Anytime she’s shared this concern with some of her other friends, they brushed her off and told her that no one is ever truly prepared to have a baby and that she should relax and be happy for her friend.
Her pregnant friend has heard her concerns as well, and the other day, when she asked her if she was feeling any better about the situation, she was very honest.
“When I told her no, she was grated,” she recalled. “She started getting defensive, saying that just because I don’t really want kids of my own, that I was trying to bring her down.”
Then, she told her friend that she and her husband were too caught up in the excitement of having a cute baby around but weren’t ready to face the realities of parenthood.
She admits that she did get snippy with her friend, which was uncalled for. Once she finished expressing how she felt, she tried to apologize but claimed her concerns weren’t unjustified.
Her friend is now very upset with her, and it took her a while to realize she may have overstepped.
“I just can’t bring myself to believe they are responsible or mature enough to have a baby, and that makes me feel like a bad friend,” she explained.
Did she overstep some boundaries when she said those things to her friend, or was she right to voice her concerns?
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