He’s Starting To Feel That His Unemployed Girlfriend Is Taking Advantage Of Him
When you’re close with or in a relationship with someone who is going through a hard time financially or doesn’t have a job, it can be hard to set a firm boundary with how much you assist them.
One man is starting to feel taken advantage of by his girlfriend, who’s an unemployed student.
He and his girlfriend are both 25-years-old and have been dating for a few months.
He makes a decent salary at his full-time job and has his own place, while his girlfriend is still a student, lives with her parents, and is unemployed.
“Initially, I considered her education as a good reason for her unemployment,” he said.
“However, considering her very relaxed schedule, online classes, and frequent absences, she might as well be doing nothing at all. This is her third university, as she dropped out twice. She is currently looking for work, although I doubt the effort is truly there.”
Since the beginning of their relationship, he’s been paying for everything regarding his girlfriend. They often eat out, and he pays for all of their meals together, pays for their drinks when they go out, pays for food deliveries, and even lets her stay at his apartment.
Now that his girlfriend has been hanging around his place a lot more, he’s been frustrated with her lack of effort to find a job or even help him around the house. His girlfriend is often still asleep when he leaves for work and doesn’t do much during the day.
“My thought process is that if she is spending most of her time at my house, with everything paid for by me, the least she could do is tidy up the place, maybe take the dog for a walk, run some errands, or even better, apply for jobs!” he explained.
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“I mentioned this to her, and she has begun making a bit of an effort, although, to be completely honest, it’s negligible.”
Things got really tense between him and his girlfriend when she recently asked him if he’d like to go to a nice sushi restaurant with her. She told him she had some money, making him think she’d buy him dinner for once.
Before dinner, they stopped at a bar for a round of drinks, which he paid for. Then, they got to the sushi restaurant, and his girlfriend ordered a whole bunch of food, too much for them to finish.
When the check came, his girlfriend “jokingly” asked him if he would pay the entire bill.
“For some reason, this did not sit right with me, and I told her that she is getting a bit too comfortable and a bit too impudent for my liking,” he recalled.
“She did not like this. I picked an arbitrary amount from the total, roughly one-fourth of the bill, and told her she could pay that, and I’d pay the rest.”
When they returned to his place, there was a lot of tension in the air. His girlfriend began gathering up her things, and he noticed that as she packed, she did a bit of cleaning up as well, throwing away some trash that was in his place.
His girlfriend was clearly taking her time, so he told her that if she wanted to leave, she should.
Then, his girlfriend left and texted him later, asking for his bank information so she could transfer him the rest of the dinner bill.
He could tell his girlfriend was angry, so he tried explaining that he wasn’t annoyed about the money she spent; his feelings had more to do with “principle.”
Now, he’s wondering if he was being harsh at dinner. He’s been supporting her all this time and thinks he was too quick to switch things up and expect her to carry her weight.
Was he harsh with his girlfriend, or was it time he put his foot down?
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