She Found Out Her Boyfriend Had An Emotional Affair With His Coworker, And She Isn’t Sure How To Rebuild Her Trust

When this 29-year-old woman was previously married, she was cheated on.
“My ex-husband went on dating apps and found himself a girlfriend and lied and lied and lied about it until he could not lie anymore,” she recalled.
It was all of the lies and manipulation surrounding the affair that ultimately caused the end of her marriage.
While she was afraid of her ex-husband for a while, though, she eventually moved on and entered a new relationship.
She started dating her current boyfriend, who is 31, about two years ago, and they have lived together for one year.
But, as of about two weeks ago, it started to seem like patterns were repeating themselves.
Unfortunately, she found out that her boyfriend had been engaged in an emotional affair with his coworker.
She made the realization after stumbling upon some text messages from the other woman on her boyfriend’s phone.
However, she was only able to read a few messages between the pair before her boyfriend deleted their entire conversations.

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“So the only way I have to know what happened is through him and his word,” she revealed.
Since discovering the infidelity, she and her boyfriend have scheduled a couples counseling session for next week.
Her boyfriend has also tried to reassure her that he is very committed to her– claiming that the flirting with his coworker only lasted about three weeks.
On top of that, he swore that he ended the emotional affair before she even found out and that he did not spend any time with his coworker outside of the office.
Regardless, she believes that he still clearly crossed a boundary, and her boyfriend is well aware of that.
He did reveal that it was nice talking to someone new and being in that easy, bubbly “talking stage” again.
She knows that her boyfriend and his coworker discussed where they would go on a date if her relationship ever ended. Plus, the woman reportedly brought up how she would show him a good time.
However, her boyfriend claimed to have felt the most uncomfortable with the situation at that point and reassured her that he did not let that inappropriate conversation continue after that.
“But honestly, I don’t know how to believe him. I don’t know how to rebuild trust,” she admitted.
Sure, it still feels good to hug her boyfriend, hold his hand, and cuddle with him. Yet, the thought of kissing him just makes her feel uncomfortable and really vulnerable.
She has also been trying to spend quality time with him, but she just doesn’t feel like herself with him anymore. Apparently, it’s as if her brain just “turns off,” and she feels like a shell of a person with no idea what to possibly say.
Still, she would like to rebuild trust and break down her wall to connect with her boyfriend again, and she is seeking advice on how to do so.
“I really want to be able to forgive him and move on,” she vented.
Are emotional affairs less serious or hurtful than physical affairs? How would you feel if you were in her shoes? Do you think she will be able to trust her boyfriend again? Or do you think her relationship cannot recover from this?
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