Does Your Sister Really Have To Be Your Maid of Honor? How To Handle Giving The Role To Someone Else
Planning a wedding often comes with having to make a ton of different choices, and one of the biggest decisions brides are faced with is who to choose to be their maid of honor.
If you are a bride-to-be with a sister (or more), you may even feel like it is assumed that your sibling has to take on the role.
But do you really have to make your sister your maid of honor? What if you want to ask someone else in your life? Let’s talk about it.
Tradition Meets Personal Preference
Traditionally, it is common for sisters to take on the role of maid of honor. However, just like rules are made to be broken, traditions can also change.
At the end of the day, this is your big day, and many brides would prefer to have a close friend be their maid of honor instead.
Of course, your decision may rub some people the wrong way– especially if there are certain expectations in your family.
This pressure will make navigating the situation more complex, but it is nowhere near impossible.
If you’re thinking about choosing someone other than your sister, remember that communication is key. A heart-to-heart conversation can clear the air and prevent misunderstandings.
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Be sure to openly talk about why you’ve made the choice, reassure your sister of your relationship, and highlight how she can still play a special part in the ceremony.
Finding a different yet still special role for your sister in your wedding can be a helpful way to diffuse any anger or upset. Perhaps she could make a toast or assist with another part of wedding planning that she excels in and is passionate about.
Either way, by giving your sister another place on your wedding day, you’ll show her that you appreciate her presence and that she means a lot to you.
Unfortunately, though, you may still be hit with some mixed emotions in response to your decision. There is no easy way to handle this or a one-size-fits-all solution.
Instead, you just have to accept that mixed emotions are okay and respect people’s opinions. If it is needed, you can also take some space away from certain family members.
Tips For The Bride
Before you decide to talk to your sister, be clear on why you are choosing someone else for the role and communicate your decision respectfully. While you should remain calm and kind, though, don’t succumb to pressure to budge. After all, this is your big day, and you have a right to stand firm.
During this same conversation, you can begin offering alternatives for other meaningful ways your sister can be involved in your wedding. And if things turn ugly, don’t be afraid to turn to other friends or family members for support. Sometimes, a mediator can be helpful when things get sticky.
At the end of the day, keep in mind that choosing a maid of honor is a deeply personal decision. The “right choice” is only what feels right to you.
So, don’t be afraid to break “tradition” and do what makes you happy.
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