He Kicked His Girlfriend Out And Then Dumped Her After She Snooped On His Phone And Called His Ex
This 37-year-old man has been dating A, 28, for nearly three months.
“She is an amazing person. She’s beautiful, caring, brilliant, and funny,” he said. “However, due to past relationship traumas, she’s in constant fear of her partner being unfaithful, despite the fact that I’m invisible to the vast majority of women.”
“Early in our relationship, I decided to give her the passcode to my phone, tablet, and computer–I’ve got nothing to hide, and this may give her some peace of mind. Or so I thought.”
He and A don’t currently live together, but she stays at his place for several days a week. She doesn’t drive, and when they first started dating, she usually spent just weekends with him, but over time, she started staying at his place more often.
Tonight, he found out that while he was gone, A, who was staying at his house while he was out, had logged onto his tablet and seen a conversation between him and an ex-girlfriend.
After they broke up, his ex sometimes stayed in one of the spare bedrooms at his place while she had to come to his hometown on work trips.
“My ex and I had a two-week-long tumultuous relationship back in 2021,” he explained. “After I broke things off and squashed all her hope of a relationship with me, I always felt guilty for breaking her heart, so the free room is my way of saying, ‘Sorry for hurting your feelings, and I still care about you as a person.'”
However, once he and A started dating, he no longer wanted to let his ex stay at his place.
A few weeks ago, his ex messaged him to ask if she could stay in his spare room.
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“I let her down by telling her the room was no longer available as I had a guest here. I did not mention my girlfriend or the relationship to avoid any unnecessary tension. However, A was deeply offended that I referred to her as a ‘guest’ and proceeded to send out text messages and make phone calls to the ex,” he continued.
When his ex messaged him most recently, and he turned down her request to stay in his spare room, he and A had briefly broken up just the day before. Apparently, A had broken up with him because she was mad after she’d looked at his phone and seen that he’d sent a “Happy Birthday” message to a friend.
He feels like he’d referred to A as a “guest” because of the drama and unpredictability of their relationship at the time.
While he has strong feelings for A and understands that she suffers from a deep insecurity, he feels like A’s behavior was wrong. He’s understandably upset that she got information about his ex from his tablet and contacted his ex, all without his knowledge or consent.
Also, he said that if A felt uncomfortable after seeing the conversation between him and his ex, he would have had no issue with A and his ex talking together on their own so that A could overcome her worries. He rightfully deduced that A doesn’t respect other people’s boundaries or privacy.
After he returned to his place and found out that A contacted his ex, he immediately broke up with her and got her an Uber back to her house. She was clearly hurt by this and told him that he was acting irrationally and was “protecting” his ex.
Do you think he did the right thing to break up with A and kick her out of his house?
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