His Wife Makes Twice As Much As He Does, But She’s Grown To Resent Him For Not Helping Her Afford Her Dream Life
This 38-year-old guy and his 34-year-old wife have been together for 8 years now and are still very much so still in love.
Unfortunately, they constantly argue about one particular thing, and he’s terrified that this will spell the end of their marriage.
His wife is way more successful than he is, and she works in HR for a big tech company. Meanwhile, he manages a department at a grocery store.
His wife makes basically twice as much as he does too. Her salary is $125,000 annually, and he makes $65,000.
His job does demand that he work some strange hours, so he never gets Saturdays and Sundays off. His wife, on the other hand, has your regular 9-5 hours, and she actually works from home.
The problem is that his wife believes he should be making at least as much as she does since he’s older than she is.
“Because of the difference in pay and hours, she can afford to be spontaneous, and I need to plan my vacations, even if the vacation is only leaving Friday night and returning Sunday,” he explained.
“On top of that, she has to pay for the majority of the vacations (she likes fancy hotel suites, and while I could afford motels and such, she wants high-end).”
“I’ve only got an associate degree (she’s managed to get to where she is without a degree, but she does have some high-level certifications), so it’s been insanely difficult for me to find a job that pays what I am making now, but in a new career field.”
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When he does look for a new job that will pay him more in his own industry, every single position has a terrible schedule.
He has considered changing industries to make more money too, but then he would need to start from the bottom, and that would take time.
He’s spent the last 2 years searching for a new job, and his wife is fed up with him not “catching up to her” so that they can live the life that she dreams of.
While he has attempted to explain to his wife why his job hunt is not going well, she responds that he’s just coming up with excuses.
“What can I do to show her that I am trying my best without sounding like I am giving excuses?” he wondered.
“The answer would be to just make more money, but if I want to crest 6 figures, I will need to go into roles that’d require my days off to be like Tuesday/Wednesday, and she’d still be mad that I didn’t have “an adult’s schedule.”
“I don’t want to lose her, and she is my everything, but I am nearing the top of my field, and she’s looking to make over $150k within the next few years. Maybe $200k. I’ll never catch up. Y’all are my last hope, and I need ideas on how to make her understand that I’m trying.”
What advice do you have for him?
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