Her Husband’s Cousin Became Enraged When She Told Her She Can’t Stay At Their House To Give Birth
This woman and her husband live in America and have been married for the last 15 years.
He has a cousin who lives in another country, and she wants to give birth in America to ensure that her child is born an American.
His cousin’s hope to have her baby in the United States doesn’t have anything to do with her financial standing. She is actually quite wealthy.
She and her husband are close with this cousin, as well as a few of his other cousins. About once a year, they travel to visit his cousins for a week. His cousins visit them much more frequently, making the trip every three or four months and staying for a few months on each visit.
“The cousin’s husband has gotten it in his head that now that she’s pregnant, it would be great to have an American-born child. Both my husband and I know this means they intend to come and give birth here at our home,” she said.
Since she and her husband are child-free, allowing this plan to come to fruition sounds awful, in her opinion.
Unfortunately, because his cousin has a maid to care of her home, she isn’t used to cleaning up her own messes, cooking food, doing laundry or dishes, or anything at all around the house. Whenever his cousin visits them, she is the one who has to clean up after his cousin constantly.
The idea of allowing his cousin and her baby to stay at their house for upwards of six months is daunting. She isn’t thrilled at the idea of being the one cleaning a newborn’s diapers or making food and cleaning up after his cousin, who is an adult fully capable of being able to do these things herself.
In response to this idea being floated around, she told her husband that she wouldn’t allow his cousin to stay at their house for the birth of her child, and afterward, he was furious with her refusal. He told her that he always wants to say yes when anyone in his family needs help.
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She’s not used to family members making requests like this because her family doesn’t make huge asks like his cousin and her husband. If anyone in her family requested something like this, they would be told no so fast.
“They aren’t needy or homeless. They are people who don’t understand boundaries and don’t care to ask too much of someone,” she explained.
After the disagreement with her husband, she had another talk with him to express her perspective more in-depth.
“I told him the reality of it is because I’m a woman, I will be expected to be the one to help his cousin if the baby is crying, needs a diaper change, doctor appointments, or literally anything related to the baby. I told him we aren’t even considering the financial pressure it will put on us; we are assuming everything will go perfectly with no complications,” she shared.
When she opened up to her husband about her concerns, he completely took her side and understood where she was coming from. He told her that he has a hard time rejecting his family’s requests for him. His family has a lot of respect for her husband because he’s motivated, dedicated, and a problem solver.
In her view, his family seems to be taking advantage of his willingness to help others.
Eventually, she and her husband came to an agreement that they would tell his cousin and her husband that they couldn’t stay at their house during or after the birth of their child.
A few days ago, his cousin and her husband came to visit other family members in the area, and they had somewhere else to stay while they were visiting.
She and her husband confronted his cousin and her husband, letting them know they wouldn’t be able to host them at their house when they had their baby.
His cousin’s husband is a very headstrong person who doesn’t pay attention to how everyone else around him feels. Even if others are uncomfortable, he doesn’t care how abrasive he is when he makes his opinions known.
So, once she and her husband turned down the request, her cousin’s husband was enraged. An argument ensued, and she spoke up and told him that it didn’t matter what he said because their answer was final.
After she spoke her piece, she and his cousin’s husband glared at each other until he finally looked away.
Apparently, the whole idea of his cousin and her husband having the baby at their house had been his cousin’s husband’s grand plan, after all. Her husband’s cousin told her this, admitting that she didn’t want to do that anyway, and her hope was actually to give birth at a hospital in her own country.
His cousin even said that she felt uneasy at the thought of having the baby in the United States. Evidently, his cousin’s husband had been trying to get her on board with his plan instead.
What would you have done if you were in their shoes?
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