Her Mom Asked Her To Give Her $15,000 To Fund Her Wedding, And When She Said No, Her Mom Started Sobbing
This 29-year-old woman’s mother, 56, got engaged to Joseph, 59, four months ago. While she thinks that Joseph is a somewhat decent man, they don’t see eye-to-eye on a few crucial subjects.
She and Joseph have different political views, but she does her best not to hold those against him. However, Joseph also behaves differently and doesn’t respect others’ boundaries.
“By boundaries, I mean calling before coming to see me and my family and not making controversial jokes. One joke he likes to make a lot is how I’m a gold digger because my husband is the breadwinner and makes double my income,” she said.
When Joseph first started making this joke at family gatherings, she chose not to respond in these moments. Instead, she’d text both Joseph and her mother after the fact to tell them that she felt offended by him saying this in front of people.
Not only did she feel like it was obviously rude of Joseph to say it in the first place, but it wasn’t even accurate. Ironically, she made more money than her husband when they first started dating.
Through text, Joseph would act as if he saw her point of view and would be taking it to heart. However, in person, he didn’t change his behavior at all and kept making these jokes.
“Since they got engaged, my mom has been saving money for their wedding. Joseph also has, but not as much as my mom since he says, and I quote, ‘Weddings are just something to make your wife happy, and no husband actually likes them.’ I’m not sure how my mom hasn’t seen this as a red flag,” she explained.
Because it’s not her business, she never said anything to her mom about Joseph’s concerning opinion in regard to weddings.
Recently, her mother texted her that her wedding was soon, and she asked when she was planning to contribute money towards it.
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“I was shocked because she didn’t even help pay for me and my husband’s wedding,” she shared.
“My dad paid for his part and her part. Also, in my opinion, I don’t think your kid should help pay for your wedding, even if they are grown.”
“I responded to her text saying, ‘I wasn’t informed I had to help pay. I can maybe buy your cake or something.’ But she didn’t take that very well and called me sobbing, saying how she has done everything for me and how I won’t even help her pay for the best day of her life.”
In her view, it would have been easier for her to rationalize chipping in for her mother’s wedding if the event was on a smaller scale.
However, the wedding has a budget of $50,000, and her mother wants her to contribute more than $15,000. Understandably, she thinks that her mother is expecting way too much.
Eventually, sick of her mother’s crying, she hung up the phone. Even though she knows that this is her mother, and because of that, she should help her mother out when she needs it.
But at the same time, her mother didn’t contribute anything to her own wedding, and Joseph doesn’t even respect her boundaries, despite knowing that his jokes and behavior have offended her.
Do you think she’s right to refuse to contribute to her mother’s wedding?
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