He’s Not Sure Whether Bringing A Bouquet of Flowers For A First Date Would Be Chivalrous Or Just Plain Cringey
What do first dates and job interviews have in common? The fact that we build them up in our heads.
Most people get nervous about both, overthinking their outfits and pondering conversation starters. Yet, simultaneously, you might be a bit excited– wondering about the possibilities and where it could go.
That’s why, just like job interviews, singles tend to imagine how their perfect first date would play out. Where would you go? What would you wear? What kind of conversation would flow?
Lastly, how would your date arrive? Would you both drive separately and meet at a mutual location? Would he give you a ride? Finally, would he show up empty-handed or holding a bouquet of flowers?
One man online cannot seem to figure out that last question. But let’s backtrack a bit.
For context, he has always relied on one type of first date idea that’s worked well for him in the past: visiting a botanic garden or pumpkin patch.
“Conversations always seem to flow better when walking,” he reasoned.
He also doesn’t enjoy bringing dates out to dinner for their first meet-up because he would rather that they both get engaged in some sort of activity. For instance, going rock climbing, visiting a museum, or doing an escape room.
However, he’s not sure if one part of his dating approach needs work: his first impression.
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“I’ve heard bringing flowers to a first date would be a good romantic gesture from men,” he explained.
“And while I do understand the sentiment, I feel like, personally, bringing a bouquet to a first date in particular is a bit much.”
He wasn’t sure if his opinion was the widely accepted belief among women, though. So, he took to Reddit to gather more opinions.
“My question for the ladies is, how do you feel about flowers on a first date? Would you go on a first date with a guy if he offered to take you to a flower garden and make the bouquet himself?” he asked.
It may come as a surprise that the overwhelming consensus was not to bring flowers to a first date.
“No, it’s cringe,” wrote PenOrganic2956.
“Flowers never work on the first date. Why give flowers to someone when you don’t know what they’ll give back? You’re already giving your time. Giving more will only let those that are takers take advantage,” explained Jessemus1993.
“While sweet, it doesn’t help them be more attracted to you. Talking and being positive to be around will do 100 times more.”
“Don’t! You don’t know her whatsoever! It’s a cringe move that telegraphs how needy you are,” added Mranonposter.
One woman also admitted that, while she appreciates flowers on first dates, she realizes she’s not the norm.
“I love flowers on first dates, but I know plenty of women and men are against it,” said Confusedgf822828.
Another woman was an outlier as well but encouraged the guy to go with his gut when it came to these sorts of decisions.
“Everyone is different, but I’ve been waiting for someone to show old-school things are still around! If a man brought me flowers on the first date, I would love it,” revealed Soft_Comparison6349.
“But again, everyone is different. My advice would be to do what you think is best for the situation, and if it’s meant to be, the receiver will love the gesture. I don’t think you should not do it out of fear. If you want to, then do it!”
What do you think? Is showing up with flowers on a first date a true act of chivalry? Or would it send you running for the hills?
You can read the original Reddit thread here.
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