He Told A Girl He Was Casually Dating They Didn’t Have A Future Together Because She Wants Children, But She Accused Him Of Using Her Even Though He’s Been Honest About Not Wanting Kids Since The Beginning
This guy is currently single and has been trying out the dating pool.
The last girl that he went on a few dates with didn’t really work out, so he met a new woman– and they have been seeing each other causally for the past couple of weeks.
“We’ve gone on a few dates, and it has been fun,” he said.
But, just yesterday, everything went sideways after talks of the future came up.
For context, ever since they met, he’s told the girl that he just wanted to keep things casual. After all, he isn’t looking to commit to a serious relationship right now.
Yet, he still received a long text from her yesterday– in which she admitted that she wanted things to get more serious between them. The girl also opened up about liking him more than she initially thought she would.
While that might have been flattering, it still didn’t change his feelings on the matter.
“I told her as gently as I possibly could that I was not interested in something serious with her because our life goals are different,” he recalled.
Apparently, she wants to have kids; meanwhile, he is not interested in starting a family. They both knew that they had different views on children before they started seeing each other, too.
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So, he would much rather not enter a committed relationship if it is inevitably going to have an expiration date whenever the girl decides she’s ready to have a baby.
Anyway, he tried to explain this to her, but she did not understand his perspective at all.
Instead, the girl became furious, called him up, and started screaming at him for “using her.” He also got called every name in the book, and the girl claimed that he should’ve just felt thankful that she even gave him a chance in the first place.
He was shocked by her reaction, too, since he thought he was extremely clear from the start about not wanting any commitment.
“At this point, I think I might just delete dating apps and go [solo] until I meet somebody who also doesn’t want children,” he vented.
Still, in the meantime, he’s been left wondering whether telling the girl that they don’t have a future together because she wants kids actually made him a jerk or not.
Does he have a right to not want children? Do you agree that it makes sense for them not to enter a serious relationship if they have fundamentally different life goals? Did he do the right thing by being honest? How would you have handled this situation?
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