She Didn’t Tell Her Sister That Their Mom Was Sick For An Entire Year Before Passing Away Because They Were Estranged, But Now Her Sister Is Furious That She Hid The Truth
About seven years ago, this woman’s 40-year-old sister stopped talking to their mother, 73, because her sister was sick of their mother making insensitive comments about her family.
Their mother would often speak rudely without thinking, and one day, her sister couldn’t handle it anymore.
Right after her sister decided to end communication, their mother reached out repeatedly to try to tell her sister she was sorry.
However, her sister never answered the phone and refused to speak to her.
“I talked to my mom and explained why my sister was upset with her, and it seemed like she understood and said she would change her behavior. I also talked to my sister and told her that our mom was sorry for how she acted and would like an opportunity to apologize and mend things. My sister didn’t want to,” she said.
As time progressed, her mother gave up on trying to reach her sister because her sister never answered the phone when she tried calling her.
Throughout the years, she kept in contact with her mother and communicated with her every day.
Six years after her sister first cut off contact, their mother became incredibly ill.
“Mom tells me she doesn’t want me to mention it to my sister because she doesn’t want that to be the only reason for her sister to want to talk to her again. I honor her wishes and don’t mention it to my sister,” she explained.
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Tragically, their mother passed away a year later.
When she broke the news to her sister, she was understandably stunned, devastated, and heartbroken, and she sobbed, which were all valid emotions and reactions for someone whose mother passed away.
Of course, she felt just as crushed by the loss of their mother, but she felt like she went through anticipatory grief leading up to their mother’s death. So, she was already going through her grieving process before her mother passed away.
Before her mother died, she was able to give her a proper goodbye, and even though she was devastated, she felt relieved that her mother was no longer in pain, which is a common feeling for grievers to experience.
It didn’t feel sudden to her like it did to her sister.
During the conversation, her sister asked her why she didn’t seem as depressed about their mother’s death as she was.
In response, she told her that she had the opportunity to tell their mother goodbye.
“At this point, she gets super upset with me, asking me how I could not tell her that our mom was basically dying for a year. She would have brought her kids down to see her to say goodbye to their grandmother. She says I robbed her of her chance to make amends with our mom. I told her she had seven years to make up with our mom, whom she knew wanted to apologize to her, and she robbed herself of the opportunity,” she shared.
She continued, telling her sister that it was her own fault that she didn’t have the chance to patch things up with their mother and, therefore, not allowing her children the opportunity to see their last living grandparent for a final time.
In response, her sister said she was a jerk for not informing her of the seriousness of their mother’s illness.
However, she told her sister that their mother didn’t want her to know (although her mother would have been open if her sister had gotten back in touch with her).
In her view, her sister is a jerk for blaming her for taking the chance to say goodbye to their mother away from her when her sister had chosen not to have a relationship with their mother for seven years.
What advice would you give her?
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