She Doesn’t Want Any Visitors At The Hospital After She Has Her Baby, But Her Mother-In-Law Is Claiming It’s Rude And Threatening To Show Up Anyway
This 35-year-old woman and her husband, 39, are about to have their first baby.
Next month, she will be having a scheduled C-section because the baby is too big for her to safely deliver naturally.
Her mother-in-law, who is in her 60s, is incredibly entitled.
Whenever her husband’s mother doesn’t get what she wants, she pitches a fit just like a child would, besides flinging herself onto the floor screaming and crying.
A few days ago, her husband told his mother that she requested no visitors to come to the hospital after the birth.
“She lost it. She’s been blowing up his phone nonstop, talking about how I’m disrespecting her as a grandmother by withholding her grandson from her and that she has the right to see him and be there. She’s been calling me rude and disrespectful, saying things about how I’m being disgusting by treating her this way and that she’ll just show up anyway because she’s not coming to see me, so it shouldn’t matter,” she said.
While she understands that her mother-in-law is thrilled that this will be her fifth grandchild, it’s also her first child, and she’s having a C-section.
This is a serious surgery, and she doesn’t want anyone besides her husband to be at the hospital after such a physically painful ordeal.
She told her mother not to visit them at the hospital, and her mother had no issues with this, understanding her boundaries.
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“But now, his mother is losing the plot and threatening not to have anything to do with the kid if she’s not there to meet him the day that he is born. (This is a valid threat from her. She refused to have anything to do with her first grandchild for over a year because she didn’t get to meet him the day he was born),” she explained.
She is furious with her mother-in-law’s behavior, but her husband is attempting to persuade her to allow his mother to come to the hospital in order to avoid more drama.
Now, her husband’s starting to make her feel guilty for her choice not to allow anyone to visit them in the hospital after she has her baby.
Throughout the situation, her family has sided with her, and her father-in-law doesn’t have an opinion one way or the other.
Plus, her father-in-law doesn’t have a relationship with anyone else in her husband’s family, and no one else has spoken out with objections.
The only one objecting to her wishes of having no visitors at the hospital is her mother-in-law.
“He keeps bringing up alternate scenarios such as: ‘What if she only comes to the nursery, not to the hospital room?’ Or what if he takes the baby out to see her so that I don’t have to see her?” she shared.
Her husband’s attempts to change her mind or find a compromise are making her feel terrible.
She doesn’t want any visitors, regardless of whether or not they want to see her as well as the baby.
Since this is the birth of her first child, she wants to be able to soak in those first moments with her baby and form a bond.
Understandably, she will also be in a lot of physical pain and will be recovering and resting.
Plus, she would like to have peace post-birth while she gets accustomed to feeding her baby and the huge new life adjustment of becoming a mother.
However, her husband is making her feel awful and like she’s being uncooperative with her request for no visitation.
She clarified that she isn’t asking everyone to leave them alone for several months.
Hopefully, she assumes that she and the baby will be safe to go home after three days.
Because her husband is constantly pleading with her to reconsider, she’s wondering whether she’s truly being uncooperative.
But she won’t be changing her mind, and she plans to inform her entire birthing team, as well as the receptionist, that no visitors will be allowed in her room.
She expressed to her husband that the things he’s said and the way he’s been acting are unappreciated and rude. But he doesn’t understand her perspective.
In her view, if her mother-in-law follows through and doesn’t see her for a year, she wouldn’t mind at all.
Time will tell what happens next, after she has the baby.
What advice would you give her?
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