Her Daughter Dropped Out Of School And Has Been Living At Home Without A Job Ever Since, But She Feels Like It’s Time For Her Daughter To “Grow Up”
This woman’s 18-year-old daughter lives at home, and so does her daughter’s 19-year-old friend.
Understandably, the pandemic negatively affected her daughter because she felt isolated from her friends and didn’t have many opportunities for socialization.
She’s a single mother, and throughout the pandemic, she was an essential worker, so she was out of the house working while her daughter took classes online.
During this time, she put in as much effort as she could to focus on how her daughter was performing in school. She made sure to check in with her daughter often, as well as monitor her grades.
“She went from the A honor roll to failing. She then decided to drop out. At the time, she had a job and switched to full-time since she was no longer in school. With her decline in mental health, I did what I could do. Talked when she needed to talk, made her appointments with therapists, got her on medication like she begged to be on,” she said.
In order to support her daughter, she did everything she could think of to facilitate the improvement of her daughter’s mental health.
Later, her daughter’s friend didn’t have anywhere to live, so she allowed her to move in.
Over time, her daughter quit taking her medication, never returned to school, and quit her job, claiming that it was too difficult for her to work while she was struggling with anxiety.
Her daughter stays in her room almost all of the time and doesn’t help out with much housework besides taking the trash out after being reminded to and emptying the dishwasher.
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In addition, her daughter doesn’t cook or clean, and she sleeps the entire day and is awake all night.
Numerous times, her daughter has said that she wants to hurt herself. So, she rushed her daughter to the hospital on several occasions for evaluations.
“This is the reason I have such a hard time telling her no, giving her ultimatums, or kicking the friend out. I have a decent job, but we aren’t rich by any means. I pay the mortgage and all the bills and buy all the groceries in the house. At the end of the month, things get a little tight,” she explained.
A few days ago, her daughter asked if she could give her some money for gas, so she put $20 into her daughter’s bank account.
Then, a couple of days after that, she ordered groceries for delivery.
Once the groceries were delivered, her daughter took a look at the food and said that she didn’t see anything that she wanted to eat.
Her daughter asked her for $100 so that she could buy her own groceries.
“I told her that I didn’t really have that to give her to blow on what would end up being junk food. There is all kinds of food in this house. There is plenty of meat in the freezer, as well as pasta, canned goods, veggies, milk, and even kid food like pizza and nuggets. Tonight, she called and asked if I would order food from a wing place. Every time we order from there, it ends up costing $40 to $50. I told her I didn’t have the money for that,” she shared.
At the time, she was visiting her 24-year-old daughter and the two of them went to McDonald’s. Her dinner there was less than $5.
When she told her other daughter about this, her daughter was furious, telling her she shouldn’t have gone out to eat if she wasn’t going to order wings for her.
In response, she pointed out that her daughter goes out to eat without her constantly.
Her daughter then said that since she’s her mother, it was her job to provide her with food.
While she does see her daughter’s perspective, she doesn’t think it’s her responsibility to take her daughter out to eat whenever she demands it, especially when she buys plenty of groceries.
Now, she believes that her daughter should get a job so that she can spend her money on whatever she wants.
What advice would you give her?
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