He’s Upset About His Wife Going On A Bachelorette Trip During The Week Of Their First Anniversary, Especially Since His Wife Chose The Trip’s Date
On April 17th last year, this man and his wife got married.
Unfortunately, instead of planning to celebrate their first anniversary together, his wife, who is her friend’s maid of honor, will be away for her friend’s bachelorette party.
His wife’s friend despises him because she feels like since his wife spends a lot of time with him, their friendship is suffering.
He believes that his wife’s friend is a bully, and he doesn’t have the tolerance to deal with her.
Whenever his wife invites her friend along when they go out somewhere, her friend complains the entire time.
“Two days ago, she was ‘car sick’ when we had to drive an hour and a half to and from the place we went as she sat in the back. She tried to solve the problem by eating potato chips and drinking two cans of soda, only to keep complaining she felt sick,” he said.
In his view, his wife’s friend was doing this because she wanted to sit in the passenger seat instead of in the back.
However, because he’s currently in recovery from a recent injury, he needed to utilize the extra room that was in the passenger seat in order to be more comfortable.
The situation got worse when, before going home, his wife’s friend started making horrible remarks about the country he was from, as well as his culture.
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He was so upset that he debated taking the train home instead of riding in the car.
Hearing these comments would, of course, have been hurtful on their own, but he’s already been struggling with the adjustment of living in a different country, so these cruel remarks just made him feel worse when he was already having a difficult time.
To make matters worse, his wife didn’t have his back or tell her friend to stop making these offensive comments, which understandably crushed him.
Once he and his wife got home, they had a conversation about everything, and he expressed how hurt he was.
They came to the agreement that he would not hang out with her friend anymore.
“My wife also said it was only a matter of time before the friendship ended because she couldn’t deal with the negativity and self-centered attitude anymore,” he explained.
As the maid of honor, his wife was the one who got to choose the dates for her friend’s bachelorette party.
For some reason, his wife chose the week of their first wedding anniversary.
He had been planning a vacation to his home country for the two of them.
So, this would mean that right after their flight home, his wife would have to leave on the night of their anniversary for the bachelorette weekend trip.
Considering the fact that his wife is aware that her friend doesn’t like him, and her friend made rude comments about where he was from, as well as whining about how they got married before she did, he’s deeply hurt that she chose the week of their anniversary to schedule her friend’s trip.
While he acknowledged that his wife is in a difficult position, he’s sick of always having to be empathetic to what she’s going through while it feels like she doesn’t reciprocate the same empathy toward him.
He clarified that his wife has been friends with this woman for almost two decades, so it’s easier said than done as far as cutting ties.
Because her friend bullies her and other people, it’s been tough for his wife.
“I have seen my wife interact with this friend and be mentally drained continuously now. It’s a toxic relationship, and those aren’t things that are easy to get out of. I have been in a fair few myself, so it is not as simple as ‘She needs to block her,'” he shared.
Later, he and his wife had another conversation, and he shared more of what he’d been thinking. His wife came to the decision that she would end her friendship with this woman.
She is planning to tell her that she doesn’t want to be friends after they celebrate another mutual friend’s birthday. This way, it could hopefully cause less tension among their friend group.
While they talked, his wife told him that she believed she was so anxious about the toxicity within her friendship that she couldn’t think clearly or make rational decisions.
In his view, “actions speak louder than words,” so he’s going to wait to see if his wife follows through on her promise to end the friendship.
He pointed out that his wife was devastated and sad when they talked because she was concerned that he was going to tell her he wanted to divorce her.
What would you have done if you were in his shoes?
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