His Girlfriend Blamed Her Mental Breakdown On His Refusal To Marry Her
Back in 2018, this 31-year-old man met his 32-year-old girlfriend online. After a year of dating, he invited his girlfriend to move in with him, and she did.
In the beginning, everything was wonderful. His girlfriend was loving and affectionate. She started completing chores around the house without him even asking. She also tried to find a job so she could help contribute to their rent.
But that didn’t last. Now he’s the one paying for their lives, and he still has been hoping she would contribute financially, but that never materialized.
“In [the] following three years, she managed to work for two months total,” he explained. “She tried to find a job, but something always was keeping her away from finding one: COVID, health issues, hobbies, or events.”
“I was still hopeful and tried not to nag her. At least she tries to do something, even if it looks like she’s just mostly chilling on [the] couch. It could change in any moment, I thought.”
“Well…It changed quite a bit. In February 2023, she had a mental break. She lost her sleep almost completely, constantly had panic attacks, and couldn’t eat. It was [the] most awful and exhausting month in my life. I was trying to help as hard as I could.”
His girlfriend was stressed out and irritated, and they fought a ton. She cried nonstop and begged him for more attention.
She even needed his help to complete the simplest tasks. When the month was over, she ended up in a private mental health clinic.
It was super expensive, and he didn’t really have the money to pay for his girlfriend to be there, but he figured it out.
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A month after this all happened, his girlfriend was officially diagnosed with depression, as well as an anxiety disorder, and she was prescribed medication.
“She claims that her mental break happened because of her relationship with her parents and because “We’re living together for so long, and you still won’t marry me,” he said.
“I explain that I love her, but I want to marry a person who’d keep my back if anything would go wrong. I want her to find a job, to find something to have in her life except me (we’ve talked through it before, even before we started dating). She agreed and tried once again.”
Unfortunately, his girlfriend never found a job, and her mental health has declined recently. She has experienced several more panic attacks, can barely walk, and doesn’t do any chores around the house.
His girlfriend is still taking her medication, but her psychiatrist told them that she really would be better off back in the clinic. He cannot afford to pay for his girlfriend to go back, as he just doesn’t have enough money. And again, his girlfriend keeps bringing up that she is dejected because he will not marry her.
“It seems like I only hurt her and expect something that [was] never meant to happen,” he continued.
“When we started dating, I never thought I would provide for both of us and care for both of us. I still love her, and she still loves me, but I feel like this relationship is doomed, one way or another.”
So, while his girlfriend is blaming him for her mental breakdown and saying she’s traumatized because he won’t marry her, he has a valid reason for not wanting to do this. He expects his girlfriend to share their responsibilities before he considers walking down the aisle.
What do you think he should do?
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