His Parents Expect Him To Take Over Caring For His 30-Year-Old Brother Once They’re Gone, But He’s Refusing To Do That And Believes His Parents Are Enabling His Brother’s Immature Behavior
This 35-year-old guy has a younger 30-year-old brother who dropped out of college and has been living with their parents ever since. And now, as his parents start to get older, he’s refusing to take care of his brother once they’re gone.
For context, he doesn’t believe that his brother is doing much with his life. His brother’s daily routine includes sleeping throughout the whole day and playing video games or streaming YouTube videos all night.
To be clear, his brother doesn’t make money from posting on YouTube, either, and has not actively searched for a job.
Instead, his brother has basically been living off of his parents’– who are retired– savings, even though he has pleaded with his brother on numerous occasions to find some work.
“I have tried to impress on my brother multiple times that our parents won’t live forever and that he’ll need to fend for himself when they’re gone,” he said.
Regardless, his brother always just changes the topic or claims not to want to talk about it.
Aside from not having a job, he claimed that his brother has also become morbidly obese and suffered various health issues due to living such a sedentary lifestyle. And even in the face of warnings from doctors, his brother has not made any lifestyle changes.
“I just wish there was a way to make my brother wake up and see reality and maybe get a little serious about life,” he admitted.
“My brother does not even contribute to helping around the house.”
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Rather, his parents have been forced to change all of their retirement plans just to accommodate his brother, and it really ticks him off. Apparently, his parents are required to chauffeur his brother everywhere, and his mom even combs his brother’s hair and buys him clothing– as if he were a child.
So, he feels like his parents are just enabling his brother’s behavior. In fact, his mom is even scared to tell his brother to get his act together since she’s worried that his brother might lose his temper and raise his voice.
While this might be his parent’s reality right now, though, he refuses to ever do the same for his brother.
That’s why, after his dad recently told him that his brother would be his responsibility once they passed away, he just wasn’t on board.
“I just can’t get behind that,” he vented, “And I explicitly told them no.”
Still, his dad is insisting that he essentially become his brother’s caretaker when it’s time since they are family.
So now, he’s been left wondering if refusing to “babysit” his 30-year-old brother once his parents are gone really does make him a jerk or not.
Would you want to take care of your adult brother if you were in his shoes? Do you think he should be expected to do that? How can he handle this situation?
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