She’s Refusing To Leave The City And Move With Her Boyfriend Back To His Hometown Because It Will Bulldoze All The Work She’s Put In To Build Her Career
This 30-year-old woman has been dating her boyfriend, who is also 30, for about 10 years. They first met while attending college, and at the time, they were both extremely focused on growing their careers.
“We started out as study buddies, which later developed into a relationship,” she recalled.
Then, prior to graduation, they were both lucky enough to get hired for their first jobs via campus placement. Plus, she and her boyfriend’s new roles were located in the very same city!
So, ever since then, their lives have been extremely fast-paced. But for her, she feels like she’s living out her dream.
“We do go on trips together and do fun stuff. But I am a workaholic, and I love my job,” she said.
Her boyfriend, on the other hand, feels the opposite way. In fact, he has begun to resent the life they started in the city.
According to her, her boyfriend believed– for some reason– that working hard in college would be enough to land him a cushy job afterward. However, corporate companies just don’t work that way, and you have to continue learning and growing to rise through the ranks.
That’s why her boyfriend has actually switched companies a whopping seven times over the last eight years. He is also constantly complaining about his workload and having to grind out his schedule.
So, over the past eight years, her career has advanced tremendously. But her boyfriend is basically in the same place he started.
Serhiy Hipskyy – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“I am currently making three times his income despite coming from the same background because I kept studying and earning multiple certifications,” she explained.
This disparity has pushed her boyfriend to want to move, too. Just a few months ago, he suggested that they relocate so he can “get a fresh start.”
She was actually open to the idea as long as they moved to a city that had equally strong opportunities.
That wasn’t the case, though, because her boyfriend actually just wanted to move back to his hometown to work for his father’s company. Her boyfriend also offered her a role in the business.
Now, she realizes that the job will require less grinding and a lower time commitment– affording them a better work-life balance. On top of that, her boyfriend will be able to earn a better income.
“But there won’t be any growth. I will be paid half what I am being paid here, and I love working like this,” she reasoned.
That’s why she was forced to tell her boyfriend that she just couldn’t move with him. After all, she thinks that the relocation will bulldoze her career.
Her boyfriend doesn’t understand her decision, though, and claims that there are more important things in life than work– such as traveling, family, and just spending time together.
But while she doesn’t disagree with that, she also can’t imagine throwing away all of her hard work.
Still, her boyfriend has continued pushing the idea of moving on her for the past few months. And just yesterday, they finally had a massive argument about the situation.
During their fight, she was accused of not caring about her boyfriend at all. He also claimed that if she did care, then she would relocate with him.
“But I told him if he loved me, he wouldn’t ask me to leave, knowing I would have to sacrifice my career,” she vented.
Regardless, her boyfriend called her a jerk for prioritizing her career over his happiness. So now, she’s been left wondering if refusing to move to her boyfriend’s hometown with him is really the wrong thing to do.
Does it sound like she and her boyfriend are on different pages in life right now? Should either of them have to sacrifice their happiness? Do you think they should part ways? What would you do in her shoes?
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