She’s Refusing To Move Into A New Apartment With Her Boyfriend Because She Already Lives Rent-Free In A Place She Inherited, But Her Boyfriend Doesn’t Feel Comfortable Living In An Apartment That’s Solely Hers
When the COVID-19 pandemic was at its worst, this 23-year-old woman’s father passed away.
Her mother and father never got married and weren’t in a relationship, and he hadn’t had any other children.
After her father’s passing, she inherited his apartment, and she fully moved into it last year after she graduated from college.
Because her university was in a different city from the apartment, she had to wait until she graduated to move into it.
Not long after moving to the city where her father had lived, she met her current boyfriend.
They have been in a relationship for a little more than a year, and things have been going smoothly so far.
Over time, their relationship has progressed, and in order to keep moving forward, her boyfriend brought up the idea of living together.
She was thrilled with the idea because she feels lonely in the apartment by herself, and she asks her boyfriend to stay over at her place a lot.
Because her apartment is fully paid off, she thought the easiest option would naturally be for her boyfriend to move into her apartment with her.
Tatyana Gladskih – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Plus, he sleeps at her apartment constantly, so it’s a transition that would make sense.
It would be great because her boyfriend also wouldn’t have to worry about paying rent.
However, he sent her listings for apartments in her area.
She had a discussion with her boyfriend and questioned why he couldn’t move into her apartment with her.
“He said he wouldn’t feel comfortable living in a house that’s completely mine and he has no say over,” she said.
According to her boyfriend, if they rented a different apartment together, it would be equal, and they both could contribute their opinions.
While she understood his perspective, she couldn’t agree to move out of her apartment.
“I was honest with him and said there was no way I was moving out of this amazing apartment that I live in rent-free just to move into some other apartment in this same area and have to pay rent,” she explained.
After that, she assured him that if he moved into her apartment, he would have tenant’s rights, and she assured him that she wouldn’t expect him to pay toward any maintenance or renovations the apartment would need in the future.
She reminded him that since the apartment was hers, it was, therefore, her responsibility to pay to maintain it.
Despite her explanation, her boyfriend didn’t seem comforted by any of it, repeating that the idea made him uneasy, and he said he was just trying to watch his back.
“He suggested I can rent the apartment out and use the rent money to pay my half of the rent to our new apartment, but I don’t want to be a landlord,” she shared.
She works full-time already, so she wouldn’t enjoy spending so much of her extra time on the hassles that come with being a landlord.
They’ve had several more talks about the topic, and she expressed to her boyfriend that since they clearly can’t reach an agreement, it’s best that they hold off on moving in together until they can come up with a solution later.
In response, her boyfriend told her that he was upset that she didn’t want to put in the work required for them to move in together.
Then, he called her “materialistic” because he thinks she cares more about this apartment than their relationship, and she’s allowing their relationship to suffer.
Now, she feels like things are uncomfortable between the two of them, and she doesn’t know what to do.
What advice would you give her?
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