Her Boyfriend Revealed He Can’t Marry Her Because Of Her Unhealthy Way Of Living
In July, this 28-year-old woman met her 28-year-old boyfriend on a website geared towards people interested in eventually getting married.
While that might sound like a rather strange website, she says it’s actually quite common in India for people to meet this way.
Ever since meeting her boyfriend, they have both been dedicated to losing some weight, as she is 5’2″ and 190 pounds, while he is 5’10” and 209 pounds.
Her boyfriend has been dropping weight more easily than her, as he has a faster metabolism, and additionally, she has several medical conditions that are impacting her ability to lose weight normally.
For instance, although she has an active sort of lifestyle and is eating in a healthy way, she has only lost 10 pounds in six months.
Now, she was always upfront and honest with her boyfriend about her medical conditions, Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis and PCOS, and she told him about everything one month into their relationship.
As their relationship wore on, her boyfriend said she really was everything he wanted in a woman but that she would be able to lose weight with more time.
This really bothered her, as she thought it came across like her boyfriend figured she would lose more weight at some point, and she knew it might not happen like that.
“I have dealt with body-image issues my entire life, so I told him again about my medical conditions (I did not want him to operate with false hopes),” she explained.
Volodymyr – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“He assured me that he did not care about my weight as long as I was healthy. A similar conversation happened one more time. Last week, he told me that he did not want to get into a marriage where he or his wife would live an unhealthy lifestyle and was not happy with how I was not losing weight quickly.”
“I mentioned to him again about my medical conditions, and he told me that he would think about it and let me know what he felt. He also asked me what I would do (in addition to what I was currently doing) to ensure I reached the healthier weight faster. My avoidant personality got triggered by this, and we had an ugly fight.”
Breaking up with him was running through her head as their fight went on, but as their argument came to a close, he said sorry to her.
He then stated that he could accept her as she was, weighing what she did, and would like to keep dating her.
Finally, he maintained that she was making things up in her head by assuming he wanted to dump her over her weight.
In response, she told her boyfriend to think carefully about wanting to stay together, so he said he would like to take a bit of time to consider everything.
“I love all parts of him (both good and bad), and I was expecting that it would be reciprocated similarly,” she continued.
“In that moment, I was frustrated that he would bring up something that I thought had been cleared between the two of us months ago. But now that I am in a calmer headspace, I’m unsure whether I was right to ask for a breakup or not.”
What do you think?
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