On Christmas Day, She Found Out Her Boyfriend Cheated On Her
For the last three years, this 26-year-old woman has been dating her 28-year-old boyfriend, though they have been long-distance for the majority of their relationship.
Lately, they have been talking about getting married, but now that looks like it’s not going to be happening.
She is aware that her boyfriend was quite wild back when he was single and used to get with a lot of girls.
But when they began their relationship, he promised her that was all behind him and in his past. He also noted that he never cheated when he was in a relationship, and she trusted that.
“We started off great, and he was very transparent about who he was meeting and why, and all the other details when he went out, and trust grew over time, such that I stopped needing these details,” she explained.
“Over the past year, things have become incredibly difficult for us, being long-distance. There have been lots of arguments and fights over small things, and sometimes big things, and it just seemed like we have been moving from argument to argument.”
“Because we figured that distance was the problem, I started flying in to visit him more often, so we could at least spend time together.”
Previously, she never had the desire to pick up her boyfriend’s phone and see what he was doing, but that changed back in February when she started to go visit him with more regularity.
She had a gut feeling that her boyfriend was doing something behind her back, so she would check his phone to see what he was up to.
Antonio – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Initially, she found her boyfriend sending flirtatious messages to girls on social media, and she knew he had sent some very steamy messages to one of his best female friends, but those got deleted.
She did confront him about this, and they had a conversation about his messages, and they moved on.
Her boyfriend did say sorry and maintained the messages had no meaning to him. He reassured her that he was in love with her, and while he knew the messages were not appropriate, they were essentially nothing.
As time wore on, she realized that every single time she visited her boyfriend and checked his phone, she found things that weren’t right.
They continued to fight about what was on his phone, and the very last time she visited her boyfriend, she discovered that he was attempting to talk to his ex.
Even though her boyfriend’s ex had blocked him, he created fake accounts to like her stuff on social media and has been trying to anonymously send her gifts.
“He also told two of his close friends that he regrets being in a relationship with me and hoped things worked out with her,” she said.
“He’s also been flirting with his long-time friend with whom he has one of those “if-we’re-not married-by-30” pacts.”
“He’s also been telling people (his male friends that he’s single). It’s a bunch of other things that I’ve forgotten now, but we spoke about everything, he apologized, and things have been fine.”
In the end, her boyfriend wasn’t able to hide a single thing on his phone from her, and she was confident she had found everything there was to find.
On Christmas morning, she took a look at his iPad, and she was shocked as it dawned on her that she didn’t know everything that was going on.
After looking at her boyfriend’s iPad, she learned he was cheating on her and had cheated just before she visited him for Christmas.
She took screenshots of all of the evidence, and proceeded to call her boyfriend out that same day on what he had done.
As soon as she brought it up, he deleted the evidence and has since been pleading with her to forgive him since it was a one-time thing.
“I packed my stuff to leave, and he followed me until we almost made a scene in the middle of a thankfully empty street,” she continued.
“He’s been begging since, and I believe now that it was one time, but I don’t believe much of what else he’s saying. I already miss him, but I don’t want to be a fool.”
“All these things are a pattern to me that shows that he doesn’t care about me, and he’s been fighting tooth and nail for me not to call things quits (even though I already have) or to at least give him a chance to fix things.”
She was hoping this Christmas trip would be an opportunity for her and her boyfriend to connect and work on their relationship, but that’s clearly not in the cards after the cheating came to light.
She’s left wondering if he deserves another chance. What do you think?
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